I have a million things going on in my life right now and I have all of the weight on my shoulders. I work a full time job, have a family, and a Mother in a nursing home that I feel guilty about not going to see every day. How am I suspose to lift some of this? (and don't say talk to my family because they all seem to think I have nothing to do or be depressed about)
I am a really fun, and easy going (which is one of my problems, I let to much slide) person and I want to be that person again.
Any ideas?
2007-11-20 15:01:26 · 8 answers · asked by MomToDavid 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
catz...I feel the same way. I just wish everyone else did to.
2007-11-20 15:31:31 · update #1
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2007-11-20 15:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I can be just like everyone else and say you have nothing to be depressed about. There's plenty of people with far more problems than you. Which is true, by the way. But I guess we all deal with our problems differently. Right now your life just seems active. Don't feel bad that you can't seeing your mom everyday. Try to see her once every weekend. Spend a couple of hours with her to make up for the time. I'm sure that's more than enough to make her happy. Having a full time job and family to go home to is also awesome. Do you know how many people are getting laid off each week? Some of us don't even have family and if we do.. we either don't get along or distant. Alot to be thankful for. Try not to think too much. Thinking causes stress which reflects on your health. Try to tell yourself that everything isn't all that bad and if it is.. it will get better later on.
2007-11-20 23:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to just prioritize. can you cut back your work hours? its so hard when you have a family member in a nursing home, especially your mom. if you can afford to, cut back on your job. that will help the stress a bit. if you can't, just take a breath and do what you can, your family has to pitch in and do more for themselves during this time. personally, i think its important to spend as much time with your mom as you can. that to me would be a priority.
2007-11-20 23:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read the bible. There are many stories in there that describe exactly how you feel. If you feel guilty about not seeing your mom, go see her. If you have too much going on, pair it down to the essentials. Don't moan and complain about having too much weight on your shoulders and feeling guilty about not seeing your mother if you do nothing about it first.
2007-11-20 23:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cut down on non essentialactivities and go and see your mum because I have family members that are weighed down with guilt because they did not take the time too see our mother before she died.Dont put off seeing your mum.
2007-11-21 00:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/cats, you cant replace yur mother. Do what you're able & that's it! give the rest to the Lord, & her too, so he'll take care of it. He wil anyway,he just wants to hear from ya all the time.
God Bless You in taking care of y;our mother!
2007-11-21 00:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by AnnaMaria 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would say ...just take a break ...just stop and think ....what is the most important ????be by yourself and really THINK about it. and you'll know the answer
2007-11-20 23:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Cast ALL your care upon HIM(JESUS) for HE careth for you".
2007-11-20 23:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋