ok so i got married on july 7,07 and you know the part when they say if their are anyone who thinks these people should not oin in marrage speak now or fover hold your peace? well my mother in law raised her hand and said " that i really dont think they should get married wait scratch that i dont feel like they should get married because she is a cry baby, she wants everyone to like her but i don't and my third eye is telling me that they will not last and that my son is making a huge mistake and he is way to good for her!" i started to cry and all i could think of is that she ruined my day. but since no one agreed she walked out and we got married instead. i am so hurt of what she did and then when we were on our honeymoon and called and told my husban d oh you made a huge mistake and you would regret marrying a b****. and now my dad in law invited us to go to their house for thanksgiving and i really dont want to go but my dad in law already paid for the tickets we are leaving tom
2007-11-20 14:57:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tomorrow night and i will be with her for 5 days and i really dont now want to do. what should i do?
2007-11-20 14:58:44 · update #1
If you want to be insulted go to the dinner.
If you refuse to be used as a doormat, and in view of what she did at your wedding. Do Not Go!
If your husband doesn't back you up on this I think that he has a real problem. You still have free choice. You still can yes or no.
2007-11-20 15:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That is amazing. I've always wanted to know if people ever did that at weddings. Now I know. lol. Sorry, I know it was painful, but she sounds so much like a kook, it's almost funny. She must be a total piece of work. I can't believe your husband agreed to go. You don't say how he's dealing with what happened so it's hard to answer this question. And it's also confusing that you are staying so long. But I guess you go with a backup plan between you and your husband. If she's horrible the plan is, go home now! Good luck!
2007-11-20 16:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! What a nightmare she made for you and your husband on your wedding day! She must be a very sick woman to do something like that. Your FIL is trying to do what is right but bless his heart, I wonder if he's thinking how uncomfortable it will be for you. I know he wants to see his son, and you're a sweet, brave woman for going with your husband, but FIVE DAYS?? Now, I'd have to figure out a way to shorten it by four days!
Be the better person and don't let her get to you, no matter what she may say. Be polite, calm, cordial. Make sure you say wonderful things about your husband while you're there and how happy you are with him. But honestly, I wouldn't eat or drink anything that others weren't eating or drinking. She's a sick, sick woman!
2007-11-20 15:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is awful. Sounds like the scene out of a movie where you cringe for the leading lady. As for the trip I wish you well. Be yourself. Make sure you have your husband on side, supporting you. Get out of the in-laws' house as much as possible if ugly confrontation is likely. Take a walk, see the sights. I genuinely hope this trip is the beginning of better things and that the future will mend some much needed bridges in the extended family for you all. All the best.
2007-11-20 15:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay excuse my french..
ur mother-in-law is a B****
and an A**
I am srry but that had to be said..
anyways what ur mother in law did was very cruel
and insensitive.. she is jealous cuz u r like sorta "replacing"
her.. and she probably misses her "baby"... but that isnt ur fault
so u have to be the bigger person and let her know u r married to her son and there is nothing she can change about it ..
just kinda be a somewhat kiss-up
and take the bullet for 5days
srry!
good luck
and remember dont try to stoop to her level cuz that would make u look worse.
and there was a reason why no one at ur wedding objected 2 ur marriage...
2007-11-20 15:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think I would die if that ever happened to me but lucky for me I've been married for near 20 years and I don't have to worry about it. I'm sorry that this happened to you there isn't a lot you can do. I think that you should try to kill her with kindness and be the bigger person. Maybe you could suggest your husband and you stay in a close by hotel if the tension is too much.
2007-11-20 15:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by MommieT 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound a lot nicer than I do!!!! I think I would have given that b*t*h a swift kick in the rear!!!! That is so disrespectful to the both of you...If she had a problem with it she should have taken that up w/ you and your husband before the wedding!!! That is awful, but I wouldn't back down to her if she says something to you while your there...I feel so sorry for you guys. She sounds like one of my grandmothers, you poor thing. Why didnt he say something to her???!!
2007-11-20 15:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law has some serious issues and will likely continue to be rude to you. She sounds like a bully and so I would stand up to her and tell her that she has already made a fool of herself at your wedding and isn't it time she calmed down and got a life for herself. Say it with a very stern tone and don't back down! Tell her you will not tolerate her pathetic immature behaviour. Basically exert your authority and show her that you won't be intimidated by her.
2007-11-20 15:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im so sorry but i can give you this tip
try to ignore all her bad comments and whenits time for the praying at the table say this.
"Thank you Jesus for give me an extraordinary man and his lovely family "
2007-11-20 15:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by nina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is the time to take a stand and stick to it, because if you dont advise her of your personal space then you will feel resentful all the time. tell her at least you got a heart. both of you you and your husband must show a united front. dont let her bully you
2007-11-20 15:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by sheilasays 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋