After 10 yrs with the same guy (and a baby), I recently found out that he's been cheating on me. At my age I feel weird being a single mother out there. I just don't know what to do or where to go to meet a decent guy...
2007-11-20 14:26:31 · 39 answers · asked by CinELLE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go out there and work your magic. But beware that most single guys won't date a single mother if you want to have "fun" and not get into another relationship. Wish you the best of luck in the clubs.
2007-11-20 14:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by The Chaotic Darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be (or feel) too old for the clubbing scene. I personally never cared for it even at 21. Try match.com. I am serious. I'm 38 and I met my husband on there at 35. I never dreamed I'd finally meet a kindhearted guy who would be devoted to me and treat me decently, not like a piece of meat who only wanted one thing, but I did!! I liked match because you can totally specify what you want. You get lots of dud responses from guys who only want sex but most of those are pretty easy to weed out (they don't take the time to write you a real response, just a form letter about themselves or a 1 liner).
We dated for a year (long distance too mind you!) and then he proposed and now we've been happily married for a year and a half.
Don't waste money on eharmony because it's a gimmick. I tried it, and it gave me guys I had dated and didn't like for more than a friend. We (the guy and me) were both like "Why on earth would they match us???" Also they don't take looks into consideration at all, but that is an important aspect even though it's not everything.
2007-11-20 14:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're too old... Are you looking to just have fun? If so, go clubbing! I just don't think clubs are always the best place to find something that isn't a one-night stand.
Be careful about jumping right back in a relationship, though. Especially if you've been in one that ended bad. You may want to spend some time on your own and build up your self esteem. I know that it's probably harder with a kid, but it's important for your kid that history doesn't repeat itself. Take your time. Find a good man (or woman).
2007-11-20 14:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by Asynchronous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweetie, haven't you heard? 30 is like the new 20! You will be among your peers of the same age and even people who are older. Have no worries. After being with the same man for 20 years (14 married) I did the dating thing, met a guy online and its been a year and going strong.
Go out...have fun....and know that you are pretty likely to meet many guys who are WAY better than the one you were with.
2007-11-20 14:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Green Eyed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meeting a decent guy will most likely not happen when you are "clubbing". Just be sure to go to age-appropriate places, many clubs cater to younger people and with what you've been thru, the last thing you'd want is to meet some 20-something player at a club. Just be careful out there! But have fun. But be careful!
2007-11-20 14:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by JungleJane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too soon for you right now. Focus on your baby/child. Once you have a firm foothold on your future, then and only then start to look for another lover. You are not alone but it will not be easy for you. Take it slow and nightclubs are definately not the place to try and find a mate. Join a couple of clubs or become active with sports or something. better to find a quality man than someone who seems okay in dark lighting.
2007-11-20 14:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a woman with your problem should be answering the question. Lady, believe me when I say 30 is not too old. ( I know my shoes are older than that) . Is there a YWCA, Young peoples club, Church club,Dance hall, or some facility where women and men congregate? Are you back working where meeting someone is a possibility? Any of your friends know friends who are looking? Best wishes to you.
2007-11-20 14:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by googie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look for single clubs over 30. The regular clubs are filled with young people.
2007-11-20 14:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to go to a club if you're looking for a decent guy. Try getting active in your community. Don't go looking. When you're looking you have to put out. Just let it happen. I met a very nice person just getting a haircut. We've been together for 6 years next month.
2007-11-20 14:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sober C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! If you enjoy clubbing then go! Enjoy yourself, don't go planning on meeting a guy though, because you might just be setting yourself up for disappointment. Get some of your girlfriends together and make a girls night out of it and go have fun. Maybe something will happen, who knows...
2007-11-20 14:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋