I hate him.. He doesn't let me or my sister out of the house except for school, and when we're with him or my mom.. I feel left out all the time around my friends, and they stopped inviting me to do stuff because they know the answer anyway. I'm not even allowed to go to birthdays. I'm turning 19 in four months.. What should I do? I had it...really sometimes I think about ending my life because I can't stand it anymore.. Please help, and don't tell me to try to talk with him because I've tried like a million times, but he doesn't care about me or my feelings, and my mom knows he's wrong but she deosn't do anything, she won't even talk to him..
2007-11-20 14:06:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I could leave the house I would have done it like five years ago. But unfortunately leaving the house is not even an option.. but thanks anywayz
2007-11-20 15:40:34 · update #1
She could at least show that she cares, but she gets mad at me when I complain to her.. but who else am I supposed to go to?!! :'(
2007-11-20 15:47:42 · update #2
your best chance of help is with your mom. (maybe) Keep asking her to help you. she probably won't respond well at first. persistence is important. have you asked her why dad won't let you go anywhere, what is he afraid of. Possibly dad doesn't let her out either, then she can't help you. You should talk to another adult (aunt, uncle, pastor's wife, neighbor, friends mom...) any chance you can see a counselor? If you really do consider ending your life, don't. things always change. but if you tell a teacher or a school counselor that, they will have to call someone who can help you. sadly not all social workers are good ones, and most school counselors are not able to handle you situation. (they deal with schedules, graduation and much smaller issues) also if you see your doctor, and tell him you want to end your life, he/she would also have to tell someone who may help you.
If the person sent to help, does not help, ask for someone else. Things always change and one day eventually you will have more control over your life. Then seek a good counselor to help you figure out what you want in life.
Also, pray if that is in your life.
2007-11-20 16:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by enderbean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult. it is time to take control over your own destiny. Your dad is a total control freak, and the control is into the abuse category. Your mom won't do anything to rock her little boat. You are on your own either way. This is going to be an all-or-nothing gambit on your part.
Find a job and move out.
Ask your friends for help in finding a place to stay at for a couple of months.
If you have money saved, you need to go put a deposit down on a small apartment that you can afford, or find a room-mate to share it with.
You may be able to find a current room-mate situation you can just move into through craigslist.org.
If you don't have a vehicle, you need to get a place near the bus routes... you can save up for a little scooter to get around on.
2007-11-20 14:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're already 18, you're legally and adult and shouldn't be subjected to something like this. If your father is physically preventing you from leaving the house, you have to call the police. This is illegal and in some areas can be considered kidnapping. If it's causing you to feel like ending your life, it's at the very least emotional abuse. At the same time, you need to get out of this house, with the help of police if possible. It doesn't sound like you have a job, so shelters are an option, or you can look into applying for assistance. Call the police, call women's shelters or counciling centers. You have to get out of the house.
2007-11-20 14:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by ljh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult. Move as soon as you can possibly afford it! Ending your life is not the answer. If he is abusive, that's a different story-then there are laws against holding an adult against her will! Maybe you can go to a womens' shelter until you are financially stable. They have all kinds of counseling and plans to help you get out on your own. You don't have to put up with this crap.
2007-11-20 14:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by marty47 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are of a legal age to move out !! And if' you are Graduated from high school already, then you should move out. Find yourself a room mate. Your Mom really should talk to your Dad though. It's her responsibility too on HOW her daughter is raised, etc.... but nothing is worth "ending your life". Good Luck !!!
2007-11-20 14:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are already 18 then you are officailly an adult and incharge of your own life. They arn't allowed to boss you around and tell you what to do.
2007-11-20 14:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by prettyinpurple21295 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probally knows it wont do any good, he sounds like a control freak, just be cool and when you get out of school get the hell out
2007-11-20 15:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by jeannieboop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can move out. why don't you?
2007-11-20 14:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋