Two months ago my girlfriend for two years and I decided to take a break with the idea of getting back (maybe living) together. We made it a real break, so we didnt promise not to see anyone. I went out often and enjoyed fliting, and kissed two girls but was honest to i loved someone else. we only talked by phone, but often. After 4 weeks we finally got back together, and its been fireworks. Last week i finaly asked her if she had slept with anyone else. she told me during the last week before we got back together she was seeing someone from her work, who I always knew wanted her. she admits she had an intense physical thing- she was with him daily for a week and 3 or 4 times a day they were intimate. I know she had the right and I am just happy to have her back, but I feel some jealousy and she even admits she would too. In a way I benefit too, from her passion and the different ways she wants me to make love to me after the break, but wonder if it was him or me in her head. any idea
2007-11-20 13:41:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that the fact that she did what she did is all your fault.. Dont take that the wrong way, I'm not being mean, but how do you tell someone you love your going to put that love on "hold?" True love never needs a break. Although, I think that if shes more into you now it is because she realized that she almost lost you and there is no one better for you than her. Her new found intrest has nothing to do with the other guy, just the new appreciation she has found for you. Good luck.
2007-11-20 13:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Deana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being generous by taking her back after her intense physical fling with another guy. There aren't many men who would do that, at least not any that I have known. But that's beside the point. You have taken her back and are grateful for her presence. As for the girlfriend, this other guy may have ignited some spark in her, and maybe taught her a few things she hadn't experienced before, but the fact remains that she is back with you. If she wanted him, she would have stayed with him, or maybe he got tired of her and dumped her. But you're back together now, so she probably still finds fulfillment in you, not only in sex, but realizes some qualities in you that she almost lost. You have come out the winner, and as the old saying goes, to the victor belongs the spoils. So take advantage of the spoils. Many women, including myself, often fantasize about other men when making love to their true love. It doesn't mean she loves you any less. It just ignites the flame a little bit more.
2007-11-20 13:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal and natural for you to feel the way you do. You will probably need frequent reassurance from your girlfriend that it is you she wants and nobody else.
The fact that you have even discussed this is a terrific sign as communication between sex partners is vital for a long term relationship.
With sensitivity on both sides you will be fine! Good luck!
2007-11-20 19:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by RayT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has told you and has been honest... if she was thinking of him she would be with him.. not you. I think she had lust for this guy... and she tried it out.. got it out of her system and has realized that though she lusted for this guy... she loves you.. i think your in the clear. Jealousy is normal but she was honest and thats all that matters!
2007-11-20 13:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me get this right she has a new passion for
you & you're complaining? Just enjoy the ride.
2007-11-20 13:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe her being w/ the other guy did put the ideas in her head, but she would rather do them w/ you b/c she loves you
2007-11-20 13:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by pyro_munki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wot a slag
2007-11-20 13:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋