I was in a long term marriage and have been divorced for 4 years. I have been happily single for the past 4 years and have a wonderful boyfriend who wants to marry me. He tells me all the time how crazy in love with me he is, how I turn him on like no other, how gorgeous and sexy I am...he takes me out to wonderful places, loves to be with me. He is the perfect boyfriend. My problem is the whole marriage concept and the traditional roles that come into play. I don't want that again.
I guess I'm curious as to what others here on answers feel about marriage. I do believe whole heartedly in monogomy though.
2007-11-20 13:36:04 · 7 answers · asked by Rogue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go Commonlaw... that way, you get the same tax benefits - and NONE of the bullshit that comes with a formal ceremony ;););)
2007-11-20 13:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been married, but it seems like such a bogus deal. I mean, people pay lots of money to officially announce their commitment, and then years or even just months down the road they pay lots of money to end that same commitment. On the other hand, my girlfriend of 4 years is still married to another guy who she's separated from, and it really eats me up sometimes. It hits me hard when I'm having a bad day and she's mad at me and I'm worried that she's not as committed to me as she says she is. I know it's my own insecurity and it has little to do with marriage, but I can't help but think if she were married to me things would be better, I'd feel safer in our relationship. In all reality though, marriage is just a paper, our hearts are what keep us together. And my insecurity is just that, insecurity.
2007-11-20 13:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Porch 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't relate to you, sorry. I love being married. I love the traditional roles. Unfortunately, I haven't been married to anyone who understood the concept of monogomy. I'm divorced now, but I can guarantee that I will marry again.
2007-11-20 13:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to get married unless my partner feels the same about marriage as I do -- it's a lifetime committment. That means continually working on the relationship, in good times and bad. No bailing when things get rough. It's the tough times that make the good that much more precious.
Unless he feels the same, I will never marry.
2007-11-20 13:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband since I was 15, now 10 years later I'm still happy. I think if you truly love someone (whether your married or not) it is the greatest gift of all. If you feel like your ready to be married then do it, if not, why rush it? If it was meant to be it will be. True love has all the time in the world. Good luck
2007-11-20 13:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Deana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is the way people in this society announce to their families and friends that they are in love and are committed to staying in love.
You can have whatever kind of marriage you want. But if you don't want to get married, that's okay too.
2007-11-20 13:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by no5no5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well me i dont want to ever get married!but i am only 13 so i wouldnt try it again so sonn wait a while dont rush into things then your going to get hurt!so tell him your not ready and take your time!
2007-11-20 13:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋