okay I'll make this simple and clean k? my mom bugs me about the smallest stuff nowadays(AND DON'T TELL ME SHE'S WORRIED ABOUT ME CAUSE SHE AINT'S YA JACK@$$'S) and personaly I want to tell her to go away somewhere unfortunatly I never tell her due to the fact she's a ***ch whens she's angry and blames me for my own faults..............either way point is I hate her but I don't know weither to cause her great misery( and people I luv seeing people in pain too) or just don't even akknolwdge(sp? sorry) her as a human being but as a stupid worm below me
2007-11-20 13:11:37 · 20 answers · asked by RC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have issues. See a therapist.
2007-11-20 13:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That wasn't very clean..or simple. Your question makes sense..and your faults are really your problem and are caused by you. Maybe you should grow up a little bit and realized not everyone in the world is out to get you, grow up and realize that you are lucky to have a mom that cares and wants to know what's going on in your life, grow up and realize that no matter what you do she's going to be hurt, and finally grow up and realize that either way you will be unhappy because you'll either be harboring a grudge. Think about your mom's perspective on the situation and if you don't care to do that..then maybe your mom isn't the problem.
2007-11-20 22:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start I do not think that you should turn against your mother.
You might hear this a lot but it's the truth.
You can't change others, you can only change yourself. There is a chance that if you change, she'll notices that she will change too (for the better, both, this will take both of you).
Try to stay calm, before and after she gets angry and that might help her stay calm and it might help her to explain why she is irritated at the little things. It might be that she does not want to face bigger problems.
2007-11-20 22:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Carmen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like your mother now, but how many out there wish they had a mother??? Hate is a strong word and is very negative. I have a mother, but she does not know i exist, she has dementia... When I was young I thought she was mean, thank God I grew up and came to appreciate the sacrifices she made for me and I am so grateful I can return the love that she have/had for me. Be patient, life is to short
2007-11-20 21:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jazzyvi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have turned against her.
Listen... as long as you are under her roof, you had better be following her rules...
I really would suggest just keeping a low profile, staying relatively scarce, and staying out of trouble until you can move out.
I would also suggest getting a job to both keep yourself away from her as well as a means to accrue some savings for when you are ready to move out.
2007-11-20 22:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER turn against your mother for silly stuff like that. My fiancê and her mother used to fight like that all the time, but made up after every fight. Confront your mother, but do not take it too far. If you keep on or have feeling the way you do when you asked this question for a long time you might want to get psychiatric help.
2007-11-20 21:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by boer84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, don't turn against your mom...this is totally normal. You can call me a Jack@$$ or whatever you want, but your mom DOES care about you, if she didn't care about you, you would be in some orphanage place or some like social services place. One day your going to need your mom, trust me, your going to need her realll badly and if you turn against her, she won't be there to guide you. I know its hard but just put yourself in her shoes, just stick to your true instinct, and don't turn against your own mother, She loves you I know it.
Good Luck, and make the right choice. (:
2007-11-20 21:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i have the same problem with my mom and i needed to hear that it wasn't just my mom maybe it is just all moms or alot of them but yay i say just when she bugs just nod and say yes mom and then also don't spend al your time in your room or t a friends house because she will hold that against you so hang with your sis or bro and hlp around the house and if she does bug just nod and say yes mom but the reason that you shouldn't be mean is because you will spend the rest of your life reretting your relationship that you COULD'VE hd with your mother and i know ths sounds dumb but she loves you and itwould break her heart
2007-11-20 21:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Cari Morgan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with your own anger and then you will be better able to deal with your mother and may indeed see her quiet differently.
If however, as a result of some therapy for yourself, it is proven that your mother is bad for you then move on WITHOUT revenge!
2007-11-20 21:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
man its sounds like to me your the one with some freaken issues and you no how many people dont have mothers and you dont have no respest for her and someone with no respect for there mothers will neva amount to nothing sorry to break it to ya shawty but you need some help unless she did something so terrible to you as a kid
2007-11-20 21:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by w.keshayvonne 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
ok i agree with everyone else you do need help . you are sick. and you already show you have now heart at all. she brought you in to this wold and rised you.You sure be grateful for that and be happy she ain`t knock out yet.
2007-11-20 22:44:34 · answer #11 · answered by nybabygr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋