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my family hates me and i have no friends. my parents always criticize insults me and calls me names all the time
i feel like killing myself and no one would care anyway if i did
i really hate myself
why am i so unlikable?

is there anywhere i can find a friend or someone who would like me?
i need some love...

don't tell me to talk to my school counseler we don't have one

2007-11-20 12:24:22 · 18 answers · asked by Tudor Lady 1 in Health Mental Health

is there a suicidal hotline online chat? i'm bad on the phone

2007-11-20 12:26:53 · update #1

18 answers

Don't doubt your families love for you. But to talk to someone go here, they have a lot of support references to use...
http://suicidehotlines.com/
http://www.yellowribbon.org/

2007-11-20 12:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by dehall910 3 · 0 0

Hi i feel so alone =[
I'm really sorry you're in a bad place right now and it feels really overwhelming that the negative aspects of your life are all there is. I've been there and seriously had negative thoughts about myself, my life and whether it was all worthwhile. There's not a lot I can tell you that you don't already know and it would all sound trite: things aren't that bad, etc. The truth of the matter is that this is your reality and you have to choose to change it. I'll give you some advice that's worked for me - it's worth a try.
First, you have to stop thinking negative thoughts. Thinking negative thoughts is like a magnet - it causes negative things to be attracted to you. So, if your mom says something you don't like saying something negative back to her is probably not going to change what she's just said and will likely cause her to say something else negative. Instead, just wait a minute and don't say anything at all. Focus on what they're really saying rather than where you can jump in to defend yourself. You will have to decide whether you'd rather be right or be happy.
Second, you'll have to focus on the positive aspects of your life. It might not seem like it right now but there are plenty of positive aspects, even if it's only the warmth given by sunshine, how light sparkling on snow sometimes make you think you'll go blind, or how fabulous chocolate tastes. Once you start paying attention to the positive things you'll find that there are more positive things than you can count. This only works if you follow the first rule too, though.
I found that it was really hard to stop my negative feedback loop and had to use behavior modification to change that. I put a loose-fitting rubber band on each of my wrists and would give 'em a really healthy snap when I found myself saying "you're not good enough," or "nobody likes you." The physical shock helps interrupt the mental processes.

2007-11-20 20:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by chick2lit 5 · 0 0

I felt the same way when I was around your age. I decided that, not matter what, I would make my own life work for me. It wasn't easy, and I had to do it on my own a lot. The first place to start is with yourself. You have to look inside and find the things you like about yourself. This will change your whole outlook on life and people will definitely notice the change after awhile. Even though you don't have a counselor at schoo, perhaps there's a teacher you can talk with about your concerns. Also, and someone else has suggested this, you might want to seek out a church and speak with a pastor. You don't have to be religious or even believe in God to do this. Another thing you can do is to look in your local phone book's Yellow Pages under Suicide or Suicide Prevention or Emergency Hotlines. There are people who are ready and willing to help you get through this hard time in your young life. Don't let things eat away at you. You're better than that, and you have far more worth than you might think you do right now. Don't give in. Don't give up.

I wish you peace and healing.

2007-11-20 20:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0 0

Everyone is important--don't think that you aren't important because your parents are calling you names and being mean. Parents don't always express their love in the right ways, and they don't realize how much they're mentally damaging their kids. I know, coming from a very dysfunctional divorced family. I know suicide seems like the best option sometimes--you feel low, hopeless--I feel like that a lot. What I can suggest, is for you to go to www.livejournal.com and type in "depression" on the search bar, and you'll get a list of various communities where people support each other and you can definitely become friends with those people--they're always there to chat. You can even talk to them on AIM if you have it. There is also an online chat counselor thing however I'm not sure of the name of it. If you google it, you can probably find one.

2007-11-20 21:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by penguin 1 · 0 0

Find a church with a teen group. Pray. God loves you. I asked the Lord into my life many years ago and He has helped me and blessed me a lot. Try reading the Bible (New Testament first). You'll find answers there. Maybe God is trying to get your attention. Psalm 138:3 says "In the day when I cried you answered me and strengthened me with strength in my soul."
Romans 10:13 says "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." Jesus died for your sins and rose again. He has a plan for your life. Suicide is not it. Here are some Bible verses to look up: Romans 5:8; Romans 3:23; Proverbs 3:5,6; Psalm 34:18; Psalm 31:24.
I'll pray for you.

2007-11-20 21:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0 1

I understand, but hear this.... none of it has anything to do with who you really, truly are. Whoever you think you are, isn't who you are.

Suffering is a result of believing the false identity is real. When falseness is believed as true, there is suffering.

If you were to know who you truly are, suffering would end.

And the SUICIDAL ENERGY is the FALSENESS wanting to die, NOT YOU.

Self inquiry can "kill" the false, and give you a new life.

You don't have to die.... there is a way and I'll list some resources below that can undoubtedly help, as they've helped me.

2007-11-20 20:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by in_light_7 3 · 0 0

I myself have felt this way at several intervals in my life but i am still hear alive and kicking!!!!!!suicide is not the way to go at all.You would benifit from seeing a Doctor at this time.Also if you want you may contact me via my nickname to have as many ppl helping you through this is a really good thing and can be very helpful.Dont go through with your current thoughts b4 i answered this ? i saw how many ppl did care so ther you go you do have ppl that care and yes we might all be strangers but sometimes it is easyer to chat with stangers than ppl that you do know about this kind of subject

2007-11-20 20:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is a temporary time in your life. It may seem like it's forever, but it will get better. Is there a teacher you can trust? What about an aunt or grandparent? Do you go to a church? Maybe a paster or a church? You are not alone. Everyone goes through loneliness and it hurts. Please do not hurt yourself. You never know how your life is going to turn out and you may one day be helping others just like you to find happiness. You will find love. First know that you are lovable, no matter what anyone says to you.

Start with talking to the teacher who is the kindest to you and school. Tell him/her how you're feeling and he/she will guide you.

2007-11-20 20:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by sunny 1 · 0 2

Everyone who thinks this is stupid, they're wrong. I know how you feel. Talk to someone and it doesn't have to be a school counseler. Or join a club to gain some friends.
Express yourself by doing something you love.

2007-11-20 20:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by PerfectRegret 2 · 1 1

honey i feel the same way
what kind of names are they calling you if its joking around then they dont hate you your family loves you
its because when your depressed you think that way
think about it look at the symptoms of depression

2007-11-20 20:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

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