I dated an older married man for three years off and on. I am 32 and he is 50. After I realized that the divorce was not going to happen I ended our relationship. Then he became friends with my mother all of a sudden. My mother hated him initially because she knew we were seeing each other and he was her age but she would put her feelings aside because I am an adult. She would just turn her nose up when she seen him as if he were a child molester. Now I haven't spoken to my mother in 2 months because the man I slept with for three years is now banging my mother and he is always at her house. This ordeal has drove my little brother away, he lives with me now becuase he can't stand to hear the sounds of love making knowing who it is that's having relations with his mother. I think it is sick and I have lost all respect for my mother. My kids (her grandkids) are dissapointed because they know too. Oh and yes if you are wondering he is still very married.
2007-11-20 12:18:13 · 22 answers · asked by Lightning 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO. that is the most disgusting thing i've ever heard. i'm sorry she's your mother.
2007-11-20 12:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly do not know why your mother decided to have an affair with a married man previously involved with her daughter. I do not see any valid reason for her to do so. In fact I don't see any good intention the married man has for getting himself involved with the daughter then the mother.
I just feel sorry for your mom. BUT nothing is too late and unrepairable. If I were you I will take some time off and talk to my mom. The mere fact that your brother left her and she was the least affected means something is definitely wrong with your mom. Let her know how much hurt she is causing you, your brother and even her grandchildren. Is the married man worth much more than her own family?
2007-11-20 20:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by addicted too 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! What is your mother thinking of? It is obvious that she has no respect for you as a woman, let alone being her daughter. She is definitely not thinking about her children and grandchildren either!
Obviously, your mother is "thinking" with the wrong part of her body. Shame on her.
Our family had a similar situation where it was my sister who didn't just take up with my stepfather, she married him. Needless to say, our family was devastated forever. Nobody's life in our family was ever the same again. I have not had a civil word for my sister the trollop, since this happened in 1968.
I would seriously have a long talk with your Mother (and right now, I am using the word very lightly) telling her how you feel morally and if she is idiotic enough to continue on with this affair with this creep - which he is, then, toss both of them in the trash where they belong and move on with your life with your brother and your children.
Stay strong and remember, there is life and happiness after betrayal.
God Bless you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
2007-11-20 20:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Resident Insomniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you should really have been involved with this man because he is still married. However, I do not think it's right for her to sleep with him unless she came and asked you if it was okay. That would have been the respectful thing to do. It's just like if you found out that your best friend is sleeping with your ex-boyfriend. Isn't there a rule that says you shouldn't have sex with your friend's ex-lover? I've heard it before, but I can't remember where.
On a funnier note, maybe you should write in to Jerry Springer?? or the Maury Show??
2007-11-20 20:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by dg2003 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
without reading the details - definitely NOT! This is an area where, no matter what the circumstance, you do not date/sleep/have relations with any person of the opposite sex that is an ex of any family member and/or close friends. It is an unwritten rule, and there is reason for this.
2007-11-20 20:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by fire_mage21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what ur mother did was wrong!
very wrong and a very poor decision!
if u r mother really cared about her daughter,her children and her grand children she would have been a great remodel and stayed by her daughters side not in her ex's bed no offense but thats dirty) i fi knew my father did that i would be pissed and close my connections with him until he realizes that he was wrong.
u are strong and u should be adult about it, furthermore u should try to raise ur kids and find a man who will aprreciate u ,and respect ur family.
be strong and dont come in contact with ur mom until she realizes taht she is wrong!
try to be a good example for ur kids!
i hope my advice helps in any way possible!
2007-11-20 20:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by billy a 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has really crossed the line. Not only has she let you down but she is dating a married man. I personally would find it really hard to forgive my mother for doing that.
I feel for you.
2007-11-20 20:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is completely inappropriote! Mothers and daughters should not share a boyfriend, in any way! Especially not a married one!
2007-11-20 20:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by katie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First congrats to you for dumping this jerk.Your so called mother is crazy. Tell this jerks wife what is going on.He is just using her for sex because you dumped him.He needs to get his butt caught and you can do it.Send her a anonymous note telling her when and where she can catch him in the act.As for your mother she needs to see the light,you will be doing her a favor.A lot more than she has done for you.
2007-11-20 20:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-11-20 20:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
of course not!! a mom doesn't have the right to inter-fear with there daughters love life!!!!!
this means she doesn't respect you which isn't right for a mom to do to her daughter try asking her why she did that that's totally INAPPROPRIATE
here's a tip, the next time you have a boyfriend, DON"T TELL YOUR MOM unless you want to be loveless for the rest of your life!!!!
2007-11-20 20:24:14 · answer #11 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋