Me and my bf have been together for eleven months. i love him to death and i know he loves me but lately we've been fighting alot i dont know if i should stick it out or try something new??!!!
2007-11-20 12:16:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life's too short to be miserable.
It's okay to have disagreements in a relationship, but when these disagreements become the norm, the relationship has become toxic and it's time to move on.
Only you know how toxic your relationship has become.
If it's unbearable, then by all means move on and try someone new.
2007-11-20 12:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are fighting about. If they are fairly minor things, like say hogging the remote or never putting petrol in the car, it is perversely a sign you feel comfortable enough with each other to point out flaws/annoyances that may have gone unmentioned or unnoticed in the crazy process of falling in love. You just need to learn to communicate them in a better way, preferably on neutral ground.
Being with someone takes a great deal of compromise on both sides -e.g. I have a zillion shoes and am terribly messy, my bloke has 5 pairs of shoes and is annoyingly neat. About a year after we moved in, he started bitching at me every time he fell over discarded shoes, I'd get all snappy 'cos the shoes were part of the deal from the outset and I didn't get why he suddenly found it a problem. The rows were horrible. This lasted for months until we ended up actually talking about it when we were out one day.
He didn't hate me or my shoes just the fact they were everywhere. In the house and even the car. We got around it by him building me a walk in closet and I just had to get better at putting stuff away.
I'd actually been wondering to break up with him in the car about an hour before we talked, because even though I loved him I truly couldn't take any more of the arguing, so if it's dumb little fights, talk to him!
We are not exactly a perfect couple- but we don’t fight a great deal anymore, because really since then if something I do annoys him or vice versa, we tell each other, before it gets out of hand, try to come up with a way around it instead of going to hell and back.
But if the fights result from massive differences, like one of you wanting kids if the other is adamant they don't or hating each other's career, like if he's a vegan and you work in a slaughterhouse, or if the rows are because you have developed in different ways and outgrown each other a little - it's probably best to walk away with your sanity while you still can!
good luck.x
2007-11-20 12:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out for a few more weeks, and if it gets worse, then sometimes you're just meant to be friends with someone. If it stays the same, then you should probably talk it out with him, and just let him know that you feel this could be coming to an end, and let him make the final decision. Finally, if it gets better, which there is a chance of, then you'll be happy you stuck it out, and you'll probably feel much better than if you ended the relationship right away. Either way, good luck with whatever you choose!
-Bailey
2007-11-20 12:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bailey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are the fights about ? Is it just a fight or is it deeper than that. If you think he will get violent then you should take off. Is it a recurring fight about something specific. Is the fighting getting worse. You are the best judge of the situation . Why are you thinking about splitting up? Are you afraid that you should leave? Is the fighting getting repetative and is there a solution to whatever your fighting about. those are key points. You have to look at your real thoughts.
2007-11-20 12:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on what your fighting about? Sounds to me like you already have a lot of options on your mind, maybe your not really feeling this anymore.
Leaving a person for lack of communicationg is what's wrong with most relationships these days.
2007-11-20 12:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by passionfruit2571 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends what the things are that you're fighting about. communication is key in every relationship. how will you know that the problems in your current relationship wont come up again in the next one?
if you truely love each other, I'd work on it.
2007-11-20 12:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by curious question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to stick it out for a while.....really know what is what worth fighting for
if things dont improve and u see no reason to stay then break up
just wait a while to dump him cause things might improve
talk to him but dont be rash and dump him cause of one fight
things do get hard!!!!!!!
2007-11-20 12:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out. Apologize even when it's not your fault. Put him first and do something nice for him. If he's trying to pressure you into something then let him go.
~Cameron~
2007-11-20 12:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with him when you are both calm. Just tell him you want to figure out what's wrong and what you both need to do. Arguing is usually a sign of poor communication.
2007-11-20 12:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by teresa 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are young, test the waters. There are lots of guys out there and you could be missing out on something better. Don't settle until you find exactly what you deserve.
2007-11-20 12:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by James Bond 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋