My co worker is always brushing me off in front of everyone. There has to be a crowd for his little act. I start speaking in a friendly manner to him and in front of these people he gives me a major f*** you. Like buzz off. Then at times he will come to me and act normally when no one is around. I know someone there dosen't like me and i think it's for reasons they can't measure up to me and they are also 'friends' with him. Why you think someone would start snubbing another person out of the blue and making smart as* comments to them and about them when a month ago they were a different person? He won't even say what I did, do you think he heard something about me?
2007-11-20 12:07:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
it cant be annoying because i rarely speak to him or invade his privacy.
2007-11-20 12:20:05 · update #1
if he is ashamed he had to of heard somthing because im pretty stand up kind of person and the people he converses and is friendly with arent the most 'normal' people on earth
2007-11-20 12:22:11 · update #2
You HAVE to stand up for yourself. The next time this person comes up to talk to you, tell him We are coworkers and I respect your ability to do your job (even if you don't), but we are really too different to socialize outside of a direct work environment. If he asks why, explain gently that you have different values, and different understandings of professionalism.
Then go back to your work. You need to explain to this person that you are done being the rabbit in the hat for his little show. It's not professional of him, nor should you tolerate his destroying your own self-esteem.
I don't think he heard anything about you--I just think this person is all about what other people think. He enjoys the show but if you don't enjoy being the comedic joke at work, cut his belittling attitude off.
2007-11-20 12:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow he just sounds like a major jerk looking for attention because he couldn't get it when he was younger so he has to get it now. Wow I would totally talk to the head hancho! See what the big guy can do about it. Not to be a taddle tale but just it's effecting your worth ethic and with this major pain of a co worker you think he should either step off or leave! That is what I would do!
2007-11-20 12:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by alyssa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person sounds like a tosser. I had a workmate I used to get on pretty well with and he started being rude for no reason to me. Just unneccessarily you know...
I am not like that. I will only be rude if someone else starts something cos I have a life and better things to think about than how to be mean to people. My friend reckons he has poor social skills and we should feel sorry for him. Your workmate sounds similiar.
Either way..some people just turn out to be wankers. How were we to know right?
actually...do what that Phantom chick said....
2007-11-20 13:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by darkling 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he only treats you this way when there is a crowd. He might be doing it to impress someone. Yes, impress someone. I know it sounds crazy but that is how bullies work. And it appears that, that is what he is...a big annoying bully. He thinks trying to be "big man on campus" will impress the girls or guys if he is into guys. He does it to feel important. He belittles you so he can feel better. If you can get away with ignoring him do it. If not talk to your boss and tell him how you feel. Yeah play the I feel card. He shouldn’t treat you this way. Don’t let him. Good luck to you!
2007-11-20 12:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Super PI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people pick on others in a vain attempt to make themselves look good in front of others. Be careful what you tell him, as he's likely to use it against you the next time he has an audience. Try not to engage him in conversation any time there are witnesses, or he will twist your words & try to make you feel inferior. He's a snake. Avoid him.
2007-11-20 12:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Winterskye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It makes him feel better because he has an incredibly low self-esteem.
OR
2. You're really annoying and can't take a subtle hint, so he needs to make it obvious to you and everyone that the two of you are not friends.
In either case, stear clear.
2007-11-20 12:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by backwardsinheels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's ashamed to be friendly with you. If he is ashamed to be your friend, don't be friends with him.
2007-11-20 12:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by The Chosen One 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
''at times'' ?...how many times have you allowed it ?
there is nobody on the planet earth that is gonna treat me that way.Unless i was forced to...you allow it.
2007-11-20 12:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk about it with him
2007-11-20 12:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Walker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. if not, ignore him.
2007-11-20 12:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by Ayo A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋