Is it weird to be emotionally apathetic when losing your virginity?

Question

I just turned 16 and had sex for the first time last night. It was nice, with an amazing person, and I enjoyed it and everything but losing my virginity really isn't as big of a deal to me as I thought it would be. I always thought I would have a more intense reaction and it would be some HUGE emotional event, because everyone makes such a big deal about how important the first time you have sex is and everyone else seems to treat it like a huge deal. Is it normal to feel kind of indifferent about it? Will the shock hit me later or something? The point is, I don't feel any different at all.

Answer 1

I'm glad you had a "nice" experience. No pain is great. you probably broke your hymen as a child, so you didn't have to suffer your first time!!

I think it wasn't a HUGE emotional event was for two reasons:

1. You weren't in love and visa-versa.
2. You didn't experience a GREAT orgasm.

That will all come in time. When I was young I thought women walked differently after having sex!! No, you are not in shock!
Consider yourself lucky that your first experience was "nice."
It'll only get better. You'll see! :)

Answer 2

Maybe you had too many expectations and your experience didn't live up to it. It might hit you later on when you meet your future husband, the one you are so in love with. I know it happened to me. I have such a wonderful boyfriend now. I love him so much and If I can go back and not have sex with my ex who didn't even care about me, I would. I'd love to give my virginity to my boyfriend. It would have been so special. I felt the same as you the first time I had sex, and that was when I was 15. Now I am 22 years old and I do regret it. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Not unusual. You probably thought a lot about it before actually doing it so maybe is was rather anticlimactic. Losing your virginity is only one part of your life. It's not always some big bang. You seem to have had a nice experience last night and as such, remember it for what it was: nice.
As you grow older, you will enjoy having sex with someone you love and care about very much. That's where the magic lays.
Take care and I wish you well.

Answer 4

The shock won't hit you later. That's exactly it, people make such a big deal out of it that it makes the younger ones want to try it and instead of waiting for it to be with an amazing person to make it have that great feeling, it like... what that's it. If you were in love with that person it would have been well worth it, but by the sound of it you are not and that's why it did not have the wow factor.

Answer 5

That's the difference;0))) there isn't one. You just lose something you can't get back ever again. Plus it's something you won't stop wanting for a long time cause it's a intimate and emotional moment for us women. However the bull crap about it being great cause of the first time is really just to fool you into doing it and then as usually after you try something new, it's not all that great as many talk it up to be. We never know until we do. Yet when you find out that's the outcome of most of us women, not all that and not suprisingly estatic. I'm
40Y/o and my first time was nice, but I've had some better times down the line. So I can tell you this it doesn't get better unless the person your with wants it to be. But it can be great when you add a little kinky stuff to it. Believe me later on you're gonna want to add the kinky stuff cause it does get borring. JUST INJOY LIFE HONEY....AND DON'T GIVE IT TO JUST ANYONE. BE PICKY AND WARE A RAIN COAT.;o))))))

Answer 6

Everyone reacts to it differently but, yes, sex is very over-hyped in our culture. I think any reaction you have to it is normal, indifference included. Since you're only 16, you're still a little young. It's hard to say if it will "hit" you later. Different people have different takes on this. I think it is completely normal to realize you really are no different once you start having sex. I don't know anyone who had a big epiphany or anything like that after their first time.

Answer 7

completely normal - don't worry.
Sex gets better with time, practice and experience. First time is hardly ever such a WOW thing. At least the person was special - which means you'll remember it nice.

Don't worry about the shocking part, there won't be anything like that, for sure.

Hope it helped!

Answer 8

That's fine, it's the way I felt. It does kind of hit you later, I guess, but not as much as everyone always says it does. I mean, it's sex and it's totally a natural thing, so I wasn't all that shocked by it. It's just kind of weird to get used to what life is like after it involves sex, that's all. It's fine to feel indifferent, I wouldn't worry, I was the same way.

Answer 9

People make out that losing your virginity is a really huge event, but it usually isn't. The main thing is you enjoyed it, it was with the right person and you don't regret it. I lost my virginity when I was your age and I remember thinking "was that it?" I enjoyed it and everything and have never regretted it, but it really wasn't that big a deal. As long as you have no regrets, don't stress out about not feeling that different.

Answer 10

Actually it isn't weird. In fact it is quite normal due to your circumstances. I am 15 and even though i am a virgin, plenty of my friends and peers are not. I only have 2 really close friends whose 1st sexual experience took an emotional toll on them because they either weren't ready or they regret losing with the person they lost it to. But because you felt you were ready and you lost it to someone you thought was amazing. You were lucky and sensible enough to know when you were ready and so now you feel as normal as you ever did virgin or not.