My best friend is suffering from cancer,how can I help?

Question

Amy,my friend, just found out she has cancer, is there anything I can do to help?

Answer 1

There is lots you can do for your friend. Does she have kids? What is she like? The most generic answer I can give without any background on your friend is to be there for her and listen to her. Don't judge because unless you have been through cancer yourself, you don't know what they go through physically, mentally, or emotionally. It is tough on the caregivers as well, so don't forget to offer support to them. I took care of my mom through her breast cancer. I have been through it with family and friends. If you want, you can IM me and tell me more about your situation and I can give you better more specific advice. Good luck to you! You sound like a great friend for wanting to help out! Cancer friggin' sucks!

Answer 2

A way that you can help is to find out what kind of cancer she has and then find a book or go to a website and read about it the more you know about this specific kind of cancer you can talk to her and make show she is calm and healthy another thing you can do is to start eating healthy food with her so she won't think that she is alone in this and to let her know that alot of people that had cancer didn't die of it and that she can live a long life even if she has cancer. that the docter are trying to find out a cure for cancer and that one day she will be cure. hope that this will help you and your friend Amy.

Answer 3

I want to thank you for asking this question. It's been less than 24 ours since I found out my younger brother has breast cancer and stomach cancer. My prayer is not only to ask God to heal those with cancer, but to also give us the strength and wisdom to be their support group while they go through this time in their life.

I do want to share with you something I've read here that means a lot... today there are more people alive, recovering from cancer than there are who have died from cancer.

† Travelling Prayer Warrior †

Answer 4

Crystal, there is much you can do for your friend. Foremost, pray for her! Pray with her and pray for her family, as well. I too, will pray for Amy's healing and that God will give her the strength, she needs to fight this.

Also, as a loving friend, let Amy know your true feelings about her. Be with her when you can and try to put her cancer, out of your mind! The last thing a person needs to hear is pity from the lips of loved ones! Give her strength through your hope and faith. Laugh with her, be as you were before her diagnosis...if not, she will see it as pity and noone likes to be pitied! Just be yourself and help her with prayers, everyday things you would normally do and of course...keep her informed on other friends and such, so she does not feel set apart from the "well world."

I will pray for you that God will guide you with the right words and abiltity to help a friend through a rough disease! God bless you for being such a wonderful friend!
Gail

Answer 5

I'm going do disagree with one of the previous posters on the whole "don't talk about it" thing. It's totally natural to want to talk about it and you'll be showing your concern for her. Don't shape your relationship with her around discussing her cancer, but don't shape it around NOT discussing it, either.

Your best bet is to let her know you're there for her. Seriously. Ask more about it. She'll let you know if she doesn't want to tell you. If you approach it in an information-gathering manner (find out what the prognosis is and what kind of treatments she'll be getting and how they'll effect her), you'll be far better equipped to offer your support. This might mean taking her to chemo, or running some errands for her when she's sick. It might mean helping her remember to stay active and be social when she's feeling down. It will also mean that if her other friends want to help her out but don't know where to start, you might have some ideas for them. Let her know that it's okay if she doesn't want to talk about it, but if she does, you're there. Also, be sure that you're there for her family, too. They'll be able to let you know how you can pitch in as well, I'm sure.

Answer 6

the best thing you can do is just be there for her. She will need all the support she can get at times but may not know how to ask for what she needs. There will be times when she wants to be alone and that needs to be respected as well. Cancer is a nasty disease and can affect you in many ways. You can email me at eendje1990(at)yahoo(dot)co(dot)nz if you have any more questions.

All the best and hope this is helpful!

Answer 7

Thestandard treatments for cancer are surgery, cut it out, chemotherapy, poison it, or radiation, burn it. Natural methods of fighting cancer are almost as successful as standard methods and with a lower risk of spreading to other parts of the body.

If Amy wants to consider natural methods have her look look at
http://www.ucheepines.org

Answer 8

Make sure she has the best care hospital wise....then be Positive.I know some of my family strive on doom and gloom I don't know about Yours and hers.....But positive influences can do wonders.
I will pray....
Lord,
Touch Amy's body from head to toe..... I pray life back into those cells and allow her to live the rest of her days enjoyable and unto You praying without ceasing,for Your joy is our strength.
Thank You Lord that You are in control and you will turn it around for them we pray that Your will is going to be a miracle here....Thank You that you hear our prayers and do not have a deaf ear towards us and You do have our best in store as long as we turn to you at all times and put our full trust in You.
In Jesus Name I pray,
AMEN!!


†Everyday Prayer Warrior†

Answer 9

Be her friend.

Offer to help her do things that's she too tired to do.
Don't talk about the c-word when you can avoid it.
Do housework, and make meals that are easy to eat (Soup!)
Run errands and pick up prescriptions.
Keep her children when they are sick or overnight just because.
Pick up movies, and books on tape for her if she likes them.
Become knowledgable about the subject so you don't ask so many "Why" questions. Its very stressful to the patient.
Join a support group, offer to take her to her support groups.

My Motto... "Cancer Sucks!"

Answer 10

research different treatments, find out everything you can about the type of cancer she has, be their and dont feel sorry for her she needs strength and not anyone to feel sorry for her so just be their and support her! make her believe she will beat it and in most cases when people are up beat they do survive. best of luck.