Lately I have not wanted to gao vistit my Dad for reasons that are my own, but he's made a big deal about it. He's called the police and he's taking my mom and me to court.
Any ideas in how to cope with the stress?
2007-11-20 10:16:47 · 22 answers · asked by Stitch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not sure if you situation is the same as mine was but my parents got divorced and I sorta went through the same thing. If you like to write, buy a pretty journal and write in it when you feeling something and need to vent.When all of this is over, and YES, it will be over, go back and read it (think about how you've grown and changed over time. its also good to revisit old times and not forget what made you feel a certain way) Also, I loved, and still love to read books( about anything) to keep my mind off of things for just a while.It would also help to talk to your mom about how she is doing or feeling, it might bring you closer to her. To bad I didn't realize how important and special mother-daughter relationships were during those hard and stressfull times. Pray at night too, remember that God is in control, He WILL take care of your family;-)! Take care.
2007-11-20 10:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by ☮~☼~Indigo Child~☼~☮ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's "I have a dad that will not back off". (correct grammar is important!)
You do not have a choice as to wether or not you go see your dad. He has a legal right to be able to see. Usually dads get minimal visitation (every other weekend and holidays) so I think that is the very least he deserves.
Whatever the reason is that you do not want to go there you and your mom will have to tell the judge and he will make the decision. Until you are 18 or a Judge says differently you HAVE to go see your dad.
Good Luck
2007-11-20 10:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Darla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honesty no matter who's reason it is. Are the best way to go.
Tell him you'd rather go do _________ instead of hanging out with him because _________________! Instead of adding to the drama.
Part of growing up also means learning to handle situtations in an adult manner. Telling your dad why you don't want to go, and telling him to understand your wishes would be the best.
However having grown up without a father, You'll never know how much it means to have a relationship with him!
If the reasons you don't want to see your Dad are illegal (like abuse or drugs) you're doing yourself no favors by keeping it secret.
Honesty is the best policy!
2007-11-20 10:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by washington_maverick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is a court order in place for you to go on visits you are responsible to follow that court order. Just because your parents are divorced does not give you any right to boss them around or break a court order. You are causing your own stress by fighting with your father.
2007-11-20 10:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.....can you elaborate on why the police were called? Did he think your Mother had you not visit? If so, as someone who thinks they can make adult decisions, you need to behave as an adult. To wit: You need to talk to your father and tell him WHY you don't want to come and that it is your decision and yours alone. If your reasons are valid and you present them to him like a grown up...not a whiny child, then perhaps you can come up with a compromise.
If you cannot come to an agreement between the three of you (Mom, Dad, You) then the courts WILL have to decide if the parenting/custody/visitation plans need to be changed.
This is an adult decision and you need to approach it like an adult.
Good luck to you, dear.
2007-11-20 10:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. You should be honest about why you dont want to visit him anymore. I know it is hard but you should be heard and your feelings should be taken into consideration. I know it is easier said than done but please try not to worry about it, when you go to court you will have a chance to voice your feelings(if you want to). Concentrate on enjoying being a kid, the courts will decide what happens and you can get on with your life. Good luck with it all though and I really hope you work things out. p.s. I hope your Mum is ok too.
2007-11-20 10:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by vixta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it one day at a time. If he wants to take you to court, then fine, let him. When you get a chance to talk in court, let the judge know that you do not want to see him and tell the judge why.
2007-11-20 10:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are built like bricks. Its hard to knock them down. Quite simply, your dad will find another job at some point. Its not for you to worry about. Even though it may seem that way. Life throws brick walls at you sometimes, and you just got to battle through them. Its the way it is.
2016-05-24 09:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be unstressed until you get this off of your back through whatever means you have to do that with. So until you solve the problem with your dad, you won't be able to feel better. Other than that, you can try to do things just for you. Eat chocoloate or ice cream. Go see a movie. Get a manicure.
2007-11-20 10:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is you dad, you should choose to see him, unlees he is abusive tword you or makes some kind of advance towards you, i hope thats not the case...as far as coping with it, try your doc, he can prescribe some meds for you
2007-11-20 10:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Speedstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋