I know there are people out there that are either doing it, or have done it. What are your opinions on it??? It's ridiculous but everyone has their reasons... Only open minded people reply please..... Don't need angry people answering. thanks!
2007-11-20 09:52:08 · 13 answers · asked by 30 going on 40 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think it is important to recognize the situations where "staying" because of the kids would actual do the kids harm. This would be the situations where one or both spouses are treating the other with complete disrespect, violence or any kind of behaviors that teach the kids the wrong behaviors. If two people decide to stay together because of the kids, I think it is of the utmost importance that both parents agree to behave only in ways that will do no harm to their kids or set bad examples for them. If they cannot understand that the way they live teaches the kids how to be adults, they will never realize the damage they may be doing to the kids with any poor behaviors they exhibit. I grew up in a family that stayed together. In my case, it would have been best if my parents divorced when I was 6 or 7. They way my mom treated my dad since I can remember was beyond horrid. I would've been much happier had they split early on. (They only recently divorced and I am 40 something now.) Well, I hope this helped.
2007-11-20 10:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your kids will geow up to be like their parents. If their parents fight all the time, or are cold or distant, then the kids figure "thats what marriages are like" and will emulate this in their own relationships.
On the flip side. most people who divorce focus instead on hating one another and the kids become chew toys. Even if you are seperating, you need some councilling to work through your feelings and become two people who agree to disagree, not to people who call each other names and scream at each other across a parking lot when transfering the kids. You must, as adults, be civil to one another and remember that you kids think the seperation is there fault and that they are half "That worthless son of a ***** who didn't make his child support again this month" If you can part as adults, if you really are concerned for the kids, you'll remember they are delicate and part with as much grace a humanly possible or neither solution to the problem is "for the kids".
2007-11-20 10:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do what you can to stay together for the kids but if ALL you do is fight and yell and are miserable, then that environment is worse than the parent's being separated. Having seaid that, I believe that if you truly honor your vowels and WANT to stay together, then there is nothing you can't accomplish in your marriage and i speak from personal experience. Work it out, you loved each other once, what's different now?
2007-11-20 10:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, sometimes it will work, sometimes it won't. Sometimes it just causes more suffering and mental anguish for the children. When the parents fall out of love for each other, I feel they should go ahead and separate. But support the children and keep them close and involved in each parents lives. I live apart from my g/f. We have an 11 yr. old. Yet, he is very much involved in my life as well as hers. He does very well in school, and talks to me about any and everything.
2007-11-20 10:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can stay together without fighting and petty bickering, then it is good for children to have two parents in their lives. If two people can't be in the same room without arguing, then regardless of children, they shouldn't stay together. It just isn't healthy mentally or emotionally.
2007-11-20 15:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by mcq316 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's selfish when people with kids break up right when problems occur, and I think people who stay together 'because of the kids' are doing the right thing unless they have a hard time working out major issues and one of them is very unhappy.
2007-11-20 09:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by ~Think About It~ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am like that i am with my daughters dad and we stay together for her and we are also in an open relationship it works for us...some just do it because of stupid reasons but the reason why we are together is because even though we no longer feel love for each other but we are best of friends. I rather be friends with my daughters dad then be bitter enemies
2007-11-20 10:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by ASHLEY 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
oh this is difficult. my mother did it for us, i did it for my children. but in retrospect... it is absolutely ridiculous! you deserve to be happy too! your children will be fine if you teach them values, but (as horrible as divorce is) it is sometimes done for the best reasons. staying in a horrible marriage for the sake of a possibility is never a good reason! love and happiness are the only reasons to stay married.
2007-11-20 10:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-12 05:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is the goal; marriage is just a means. Question is: Whose happiness is more important?
2007-11-20 10:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋