k. Am I going to be left on the shelf? I know I have a great presonality around girls. But, I become shy around guys! Is this ever going to end? I am 21 alrd.
2007-11-20 09:28:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at the good qualities in you, stop thinking you are going to be left on the shelf. Your shyness might be coming across as stuck up, so try to smile and if you can engage in small talk, slowly but surely you will start to get more conferable and gain confident.
Men love confident woman, well at least I do.
2007-11-20 09:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jr. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any guy friends ever while growing up? My guess is you did. Take what you did with them and try to use it with the guys around campus. You can start slowly like say I am going to smile at 5 guys today or something like that. Then the next day just say hi to someone. And continue on that path. I know it will be tough for you, but after you do it, you will feel so much better about yourself and what you can do. Good luck
2007-11-20 09:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Derek J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just naturally shy and it has nothing to do with confidence. Some women that don't grow up in a house with guys have this same issue. You will find someone that loves you the way you are and when you are comfortable enough with a guy you will act around him the way you do with your girls. Good luck to you! I know it's stressful and scary but it can be soo much fun!
2007-11-20 09:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly you need to break out of that shell. I was exactly the same way and my friends were the opposite. They were always hooking up and having fun till I finally was embarrassed when they all had dates and I didn't so I said the next time a girl looks my way Im going to be myself and just talk to her and it worked out just that easy. Now Im in a great relationship and Im very happy Im not longer shy. I even conduct public speaking seminars.
2007-11-20 09:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by ronny s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay first off, you're ONLY 21. You are young and have plenty of time. Are you looking for a husband or something because it sounds like it. Just be yourself. Men are easygoing. You will find this out the older you get. Don't be shy or scared because I guarantee they are more scared than you are.
2007-11-20 09:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to get your confidence up and at least make eye contact back with them and smile. If not they will think you are stuck up and stop even trying. NOW is the time to start fresh. You can do it, just pretend you're someone else you know that is really friendly and confident, then sooner or later you won't be pretending anymore.
2007-11-20 09:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by CJ SWEETNESS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is up to YOU! You want it to end you must take steps to end it your self. I was always shy around girls. It was hard but the day came when I did over come it, It ain't easy either, and you will make mistakes too!
2007-11-20 09:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by zipper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and don't think of talking to a guy as such a big deal. They can be good friends too. You don't have to smile back all the time, but it shows off your confidence.
2007-11-20 09:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys can be intimidated by a very beautiful women. Do not worry, there will be some guy who step up to the late and lets you know you are the one :)
2007-11-20 09:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW. 21 and you're still shy around boys?
Just tell yourself that being shy around the opposite sex is so elementary school!
If you know you're beautiful and you know they are feeling you then..why act shy? Go for it!
2007-11-20 09:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋