What is wrong with black men?

Question

I am skinny (118lbs, 5'8) I don't really have a body, b cup boobs and nice shaped but not a big butt.

Okay, so me and my friends including some boys were talking and one says, "I only like light skinned girls because there p**** is pink." and others were agreeing and smiling. The ones who said it were black. They also said if a girl doesn't have a big butt/nice body, they won't even look at her. They basically ignore me. I have light skin but don't have the body they are looking for.

All the black boys have rejected me because I don't follow their ideal body image. What is the worst is a boy I like doesn't pay me any attention, but when a new girl came, light skin big booty, he was all over her! He has also said I'm cute and I'd be "perfect" if I had an a**. What the hell is wrong with black guys now? Why are they so picky??? They dont like dark skin, or skinny light skin, just light with big booty.

I go to a school where there are predominantly black and spanish boys, I have seen maybe 3 white kids seriously, so dating a white man isn't that simple. Unless I date an adult! (I'm 16)

No I can't speak for all girls being picky. I'm not.

And I didn't want a detailed title, of course I don't mean alll black men, I don't know all black men.

Skasey you didnt answer the question, you basically advertised your black bf, and implied he likes you because you are white -__-

Answer 1

That sucks. Nothing you can do about it. Personally I dislike bubble butts, but I wouldn't put them down. I'd probably find you real cute. You sound that way. What's really weird is how impolite they are. Like your deaf or something. This is bullying and nothing less. Nothing wrong with B cups. More than a mouthful is a waste......:-)

Answer 2

Immaturity and stereotypical......not all black guys are like them. Sounds like they are just following what they have grown up to see from their piers or family or whoever influenced them or that just could be what they are after. Not all black guys are the same, there are alot of people in alot of other different cultures that are like this who just go after certain types of people whether the girl is skinny, has a great body with a big butt or only go after blonds or brunettes etc. But if they are saying that, that is not nice stuff and not very nice people to be around and espcially if they ignore you and even the guy you like won't pay you any attention and told you that you were cute and you would only be perfect if yo had an a**.

You are perfect no matter what..........if you are happy with you as a person and what you look like that is all that matters and no guy is worth your time if they tell you otherwise.......it just means that they are not mean't for you. A guy who is genuine will want to be with you because he finds you to be perfect in his eyes meaning he sees past what others consider flaws (like not having a big butt, or light skin or not a nice ody etc) he will see what a beautiful person you are and want to be with you for who you are and not for what you look like or what he may get from you.

A guy is not worth your time if he tells you straight up that you would only be perfect if you had an a**. As no one is perfect only what is in the eye of the beholder and what makes a beautiful person is the persons nature, personality and the way they treat others and if they can't see past the curtain and see what a beautiful person you are then go hang around people who respect you and want to be with you. Don't try to waste your time with losers like they are as they will only use you and they won't give you the attention that you deserve.

Answer 3

Correction, not all black men like big butts and not all like light skinned black women so you really need to change that thought. Now the thing is that the guys that you are in contact with feel that way and they sound very immature, I'm a dark skinned black woman with a big butt and big breast and that doesn't make them love you or respect you. I'm in my thirties and guys that's ten years younger always want to hit on my because they say I have a body like Buffie The Body. I really would like someone who wants me for me so I said all of that just to let you know that never feel bad for your look only a real man would appreciate that.

Answer 4

It is not just black men. I know Hispanic guys who do not like Hispanic women, or white guys that only like Hispanic women and won't date white girls. Sweetie, do not let something so beneath you get to you. Do you really want a guy to like you for your looks? All thru puberty and still thru my 20's I did not have a body, almost your size, but a couple inches shorter. And yeah, I felt bad that I didn't have guys falling over me. But the one that did fall for me was the important one. The one that noticed more than what's on the outside. 11 years later he always tells me how sexy I am and he always remembers how good "I wore my jeans" since we were in school. lol!!! One thing that I always had was confidence and always liked myself and that came thru in a way that people liked. I always had friends and got along great with all types of people.

And when it comes down to it, don't you think that us girls are just as picky?

Answer 5

Those guys suck! I am skinny and am definately not light skinned and I have zero trouble with black guys. I am sorry to hear those people talk to you that way. You need to hang around different people because they are causing you to question whether or not you are attractive. Would you really want to date a guy that superficial anyway??

Answer 6

i agree with you 100%..i do not know. if a black guy is not saying what you just wrote down, they are dating a white girl. i dont know where you are from, but here in Texas, A LOT of black guys date white girls.

I would not let that bother me. If a guy really like you for you then you shouldnt worry. doesnt matter what race he is. also, if a guy describes a girl like that infront of you, just tell him you dont look like Usher and you are not making J-zay's money so i have nothing to worry abt!!! guys that say that, are usually not that good looking themselves...

Answer 7

I agree with the person who said they are following what they see in these videos. Honey you have to remember you're dealing with young minded little boys who are only interested in sex. Cherish yourself and don't get caught up in the hype. You have a lot going for yourself let some other girl deal with the drama and heartache instead of yourself.

Answer 8

Wish I knew! I am white fairskinned but dont have a big butt but my b'friend seems to love that!! I was wondering the same thing as he knows some girls that are black but purely friends although really attractive but doesn't think black girls are sexy at all!!! Dont know why!??

Answer 9

They follow their idols. You know the rap artists that only have big booty girls in the videos etc. Little do they know half of those men are nothing like what you see on t.v. Don't worry, they're idiots.

Answer 10

Have you tried to date white guys instead? .. or other races?! Everybody has the image in their heads what its ideal partner would look like ... I guess you just need to find the person with your picture on his mind ;)