My sister has been involved in this relationship that we, her family do not think is the best thing for her. Well when I got engaged this past August, we set out wedding date for May 2008, when I told my sister that we were getting married, she got engaged too, and set her date for Dec. 2007. Then she went around to all the relatives on both sides and turned them all against our family. The relatives have been very verbally brutal to my parents, and it stems from them leaving the chatholic church 15 years ago, and this is sorta their revenge or something. Why are chatholics like this, these are relatives that my parents are very close to, in cluding my grandma? It's bizarre, well looks like my wedding will be very small.
2007-11-20 08:57:21 · 9 answers · asked by burni.romo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sarah jane: the relatives are not shy to say it's about the chatholic issue. I am not being predjudice. I am completely shocked by their sudden behavior. I have no idea what my sister is saying to them.
2007-11-20 13:04:17 · update #1
So what your saying is your sister heard you were getting married in May so, she planned a wedding for 5 months sooner. Then she went around and talked junk about your parents *who are also her parents* b/c they left the catholic church. Now both YOUR family and your FHs family are shunning your parents?
Did I ge that right?
If so here is what i would do as a Roman Catholic and a decent human being.
1) I'D SLAP SOME SENSE INTO MY SISTER. How dare she disrespect her parents!
2) I would tell anyone who plans to attend, My FH included that if they cannot treat my parents with the respect they deserve for being the ppl who loved and raised me; you are not welcome at my wedding unless you straighten out.
This is NOT catholic issue. Catholic believe
"Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment that you pronounce you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, "Let me take the speck out of your eye," when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye."
Matthew 7.1-5
Those relatives should be ashamed.
2007-11-20 18:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree not all Catholics are like that. It seems that something else is going on here for family to turn against you and your parents. It sounds like they just needed an excuse and unfortunately found one. Sounds like your sister is jealous of your happiness and is just trying to make trouble.
My family is a melting pot of different Christian religions, most Catholic and I have never had a problem because so and so was not Catholic etc. etc.
I'm sorry your going through this. You can't pick your family, but you cna choose who you want to invite to your wedding. If I were you I would do a small intimate affair where you can relax and have fun with the family and friends that mean a lot to you!
Good luck!
2007-11-20 12:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't blame this behavior on the fact that they are Catholic. That is prejudiced and wrong to say.
You should be wondering why your sister decided to "turn both sides of the family" against you and your parents. Apparently your parents aren't very close to them at all, or they wouldn't have been turned so easily.
I don't think you're telling the whole story here. There is no need to take revenge on someone for leaving the church. Your story makes no sense.
2007-11-20 09:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all Catholics are like this. This doesn't have to do with what religion you are, but more with the core family values.
Your parents were probably raised Catholic and so were all the relatives. In many families, religion is part of your shared identity. Like, your mom's maid name was Smith. All the Smith Children were raised devotely in the Catholic Church. It was their parent's wishes.
Then, your mother (this is all just an example) decides to leave the Church. In a sense, she is abadoning the values and morals instilled by her parents. In a way, she's saying, "what I was raised to believe by my parents was wrong."
It almost becomes an insult to the family and the traditions they believe in. It has little to do with the religion, but more to do with the fact they no longer want to identify with certain aspects of their upbringing.
2007-11-20 09:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by J'adore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhhhh, wouldn't these also be your sister's parents? it seems a little odd that she would turn the family against her parents as well as herself. also, if your granny was upset about them leaving the church, they would have been mad for the past 15 yrs. not all of a sudden as though they forgot your parents left the church until your sister mentioned it. your story doesn't make sense and i'm sure you've left out some crucial details.
2007-11-20 09:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Luther believed in indulgences, he grew to become into against how some monks have been givng them. i'm getting a kick out of individuals pointing out indulgences with out ever easily analyzing what Luther reported with regard to the subject remember.
2016-10-17 13:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Please don't group all of us that are Catholic into one big pot. Families are simply....families....grrr! I would put the blame square where it needs to be....on YOUR SISTER. Why did SHE go around and, as you say, "turned them against your family?" She is the one you need to be putting the blame on....not any of us that are Catholic and not in your family.
I'm not saying everyone that is Catholic is a saint...far from it!! But this seems to be more of a "family thing" than a "Catholic thing."
2007-11-20 10:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've run into this same situation with my relatives who supposedly are devoted catholics but because I have no interest in their faith I get talked about a lot behind my back - I hear it via my mom who they talk to... It is very sad that some of them don't practice what they preach.
I hope your wedding is spectacular and for those who do attend they are talking about it for years to come.
2007-11-20 09:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by lovebitesrns 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If people are willing to shut you out so quickly, would you want to feed and host these same people? If that's the way they want it, then maybe you'll have a better time without these venom spewers.
2007-11-20 10:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋