my parents are divorce. and my dad is still very hostile about the whole situation. He does NOT like my mom's boyfriend or whatever he is...personally i don't really like to be around him myself. For my wedding...what do i do? i don't want my father to get upset or feel as if the bf is trying to take over bc thats the type of person the bf is. HELP?!
2007-11-20 08:37:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i'm saying he is going to try and take over...bc i know i just know he is going to act like me and him are the closest family members there is. ITS SO NOT LIKE THAT. i think you would just have to know him.
2007-11-20 08:54:43 · update #1
i'm saying he is going to try and take over...bc i know i just know he is going to act like me and him are the closest family members there is. ITS SO NOT LIKE THAT. i think you would just have to know him.
2007-11-20 08:56:11 · update #2
You need to have a conversation with your mom and your dad. Talk to your mom first and tell her your concerns about upsetting your dad. Ask her to be on her best behavior and to make sure her boyfriend is reigned in. Emphasize how important it is to you and she should understand. Then talk to your dad and explain that while mom and her boyfriend will be there, you have already spoken her and that everyone will behave. Ask him to do the same. Good luck.
2007-11-20 08:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your parents have their distinguished roles in your wedding-Mother and Father of the Bride!
Speak with both parents about their importance on that day and in your life. Let it be known that your mother's bf, is a guest at your wedding. He is not part of the bridal party and he does not hold any weight in decisions-that job is already taken by your parents. He like everyone else that day-a spectator, there to watch and celebrate. Perhaps you need to speak with him about how important your father is to you and that you do not need to have him stepping on your fathers toes. Let him know you will take help and/or adivce only when you ask for it. Don't be too pushy or bridezilla-ish, you just need to be firm. Your best bet is to nip this situation before it becomes an issue and causes stress that is UNnessary!!
Good Luck!
2007-11-20 08:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by xie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assume your father will be allowed to bring a guest of his choice, so your mother should have the same courtesy extended to her. in any family, divorced or not, there will likely be two people who hate each other. it is up to the adults involved to retain some type of decorum and dignity.
obviously, you should seat them at separate tables. also, consider having your mother and father in separate pews at the wedding if you really think something dramatic might ensue.
i'm a little confused about you saying that the bf might take over. please explain how ANYONE, especially someone you don't even like, could possibly take over your wedding. he's obviously not walking you down the aisle so what other role could he be hoping to perform? is his taking over really just him dancing like a madman at the reception? i really don't understand how the bf of your mother could or would "take over" your wedding.
2007-11-20 08:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom, and I would suggest not inviting her boyfriend. Explain to her that you do not want any conflict between him and your dad and that you want everything to be perfect. Since you are not close to him anyway (the way it sounds) it shouldn't be a problem. I'm sure your mom wants you to be happy on your wedding day and will hopefully support you however you want to plan it.
Good luck!
2007-11-20 12:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your mother that you do not feel comfortable with her new boyfriend being at the wedding. You want everything to go smoothly and you want both of your parents to have a nice time. If she says she can't have a nice time without him, tell her that is baloney. Also let your father know he can't bring a date either to make things fair.
2007-11-20 09:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your mom &dad about this and if they would be adults with this then the boyfriend shouldn't be a problem this is your day not theirs and they should put you 1rst with this ,however when it comes picture time I don't think the boyfriend should be in them .
2007-11-20 09:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by oxendinebrenda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just talk to your mother nicely and calmly, telling her that it wouldn't be appropriate for her to have her 'boyfriend' at your wedding, or involved in things.
2007-11-21 03:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite your mom's boyfriend. I didn't and everything worked out great.
2007-11-20 08:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs S 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋