I mean I love being pregnant but I know that I don't want to have a handful of kids just because I like being pregnant. How did you determine the perfect amount of kids to have? How does a person come upon making a decision this crucial?
2007-11-20 08:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
To answer some questions. I'm 24, I am married, and yes I can afford to have more.
2007-11-20 08:40:18 · update #1
To answer someones question. The thing I love about being pregnant is feeling the baby inside my tummy.
2007-11-20 09:24:08 · update #2
Congrats I have a 6 day old and a 17 month old. I am done due to complications with my youngest, but I think the most important things to consider are these:
1. Do you have enough time to spend with each child individually as well as with the whole family?
2. Do you have the finances to support another child?
Good luck and congrats to you! Babies are wonderful...
2007-11-20 08:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even be thinking of this with two lovely children and one only a week old. Just enjoy these two and when the time is right, you'll be able to decide on more or no more. Just remember, being pregnant might be fun, nice or whatever, but when these two get a bit older, things will be more expensive and much more time consuming. And adolescents is no fun, either. Raising children is much more than carrying them. Enjoy now; make a decision later.
And what did you love about being pg? The attention? The planning of the birth? Once you figure that out, you may see that the pregnancy is the important thing for you, but the raising of the child will be a burden if too many.
2007-11-20 08:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 children ages 5 1/2, 4, 2 1/2, and 7 months. First 3 are girls, then we had our little boy. Two did not seem like enough to me, then our third was also a girl. My husband really wanted a boy too, and now we are done I think. I have a hard time being pregnant, I am thin and it is difficult to walk due to back and leg pain, and for the last 2 my uterus literally was low afterward, I had some pelvic floor problems, kidney stones. I am now 35 years old. But part of me wants just 1 more-it is hard to imagine not having a baby around, but I gave away my maternity clothes 1 week after having my latest, adn all our baby girl clothes too!! Congrats on teh new baby too-I am sure that your daughters will be best friends! My 2 girls are 18 months apart and are 1 year apart in school, our oldest is in kindergarten now-they wear all the same clothes and shoe sizes too.
2007-11-20 08:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how i did it. ( I had a boy and 12 months and 6 days later had a girl, theni realized that for 20 years at the least i will pay there way through this life and be there personal care giver , shoffer, counselor, maid, chef, and so many other things for them teacher mentor spiritual guide , comforter, ears when the need to talk and there disciplinare when the go astray. And in all of that will i do my best with two? I asked myself alot of questions for the long term and two seemed to be a lifetime of children and grandchildren and presants and medical bills and such. so if you have two already wait about two years or maybe even five and then start thinking of having more after you have had a taste of what it will be like for a few years. *wink* i'll bet you will be satisfied with the two you have .
2007-11-20 08:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me. You can't predetermine how many you want. Use protection when you don't and leave your options open for when you do. I wouldn't advise getting anything drastic done yet. Our 23 yr old neighbor had her tubes tied after her second son. At 6 and 4 years old, they drowned in the pond across the street. ( And before anybody jumps to judgment, they were being watched, it was on ice and all the help in the world couldn't save them.) Anyway, she has since remarried and would now like more kids. I have a thirty two year old and my next youngest is 22. You never know. Bless you and your family.
2007-11-20 08:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure! i am pregnant with my 5th and i can't decide if i want to be done or not. i absolutely hate being pregnant because of the morning sickness for the first 4 or so months and the dislocated hips making walking difficult for the last 4 or so months. but i still can't decide if we are done.
i guess we will just know when we hit our number!
2007-11-20 08:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than 6 is a handful! As many as you can afford and take care of is fine though.
2007-11-20 08:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think I ever could. I hate being pregnant, but I love kids.
At some point you have to say to yourself "how many other kids need me?" I opt for adoption after a certain number of my own, theyre already here and the world is already so flucked up, why bring more people into it while others are parentless and alone?
But thats just me personally.
2007-11-20 08:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think thats so cool that you had your babies so close together. I have one child a son, and the decision not to have anymore was based on the fact that labor was hell for me. My pregnancy was beautiful but that labor was some pain I will never ever forget. I hate that my son is an only child but I can't do it again, it hurt toooooo bad to ever do it again.
2007-11-20 08:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU CAN STOP NOW! THIS DAY AND AGE IT IS TOO EXPENSIVE TO RAISE KIDS. HOW OLD ARE YOU? ARE YOU MARRIED? CAN YOU AFFORD TO HAVE MORE?
2007-11-20 08:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by mebepat 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋