I'm a Christian and have been for many years. I have chosen to be alone until God sends the right man for me. I want a christian man who believes in God too. Worldly men want you in the sack fast and if you don't their off like the road runner. Just my experience, i know all men are "not" like that!!!
Anyway, a few months ago i met a nice guy. I can't believe it really he is pretty much what i'm after but, he isn't born again. He is a believer a Catholic.
We have been seeing each other once a week and last week he wanted to kiss me and i said no, that i'm not ready.
I have told him i'm a christian and christians don't get physical till marriage and spoken like a true worldly man, he said.. 'Sex is healthy and it's a sign 2 people are attracted to each other'. I explaned my side. I thought he would never call again after i told him no Physical stuff, but he did!.
Christains, what do you think i should do with this guy? Do you think i should stop seeing him, or keep seeing him??
2007-11-20 08:27:23 · 9 answers · asked by Purity 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Evolved- sorry, i have 2 children already!!!!
2007-11-20 08:40:16 · update #1
First of all, I would remember that he too is a Christian, and he should go talk to his priest if he thinks that premarital sex is OK... he'll get quite a discussion. That said, I encourage you to stand by your beliefs. If the relationship goes more serious, it will be an issue that you two are from different backgrounds. In the end, you will need to ask questions like:
- How will our future children be raised?
- What church will we attend?
etc...
I trust that God will give you wisdom in this.
2007-11-20 08:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by christian_mennonite_pacifist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how comfortable you are with believing he will not attempt to pressure you into being "physical". Not even kissing him after a few months may be a bit out of the ordinary, but if that's your belief, then follow it. However, you may find it a very long and lonely path until the "right" man comes along.
2007-11-20 08:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Premarital sex is SIN. Paul said this : The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. (NIV, Galatians 5:19-21) Also read Hebrews 13. If he is pressuring you I would let him go. God will send you someone when the time is right.
2007-11-20 09:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Christian, but I don't think you go against your moral vow to yourself for sex! Sex is NOT direly needed and it CAN wait... You aren't ready, you have said that. If that guy (worldly or not) isn't able to wait for you to be ready, then he needs to move on! Don't listen to anyone on this site who says that you are crazy or should just have sex...
Stand by your will! If you don't you will have strong regret later...
2007-11-20 08:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. If you are a born again Christian and he is a Catholic-then it will not work unless one of you gives in. If he is just a "say-so" Catholic, then he may change. If he is hard core-you will be sorry.
I would move on.
2007-11-20 08:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Higgy Baby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if this is what you really want and you are ok with the consequences then go ahead with your plan. Stick to your guns and do not let in.
However, remember that I said that you need to be ready for the consequences. If he decides that he does not share your beliefs in this area and moves on then do not blame him. It was your decision.
2007-11-20 08:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he called after you told him "no sex" obviously means that he likes you for who you are. Give him another chance, but stick to your guns.
2007-11-20 08:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Little Red Hen 2.0 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should pray over the matter the Holy Spirit will guide you.
2007-11-20 08:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by preacher 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If more of you thought like this, we would be free of you people in only one or two generations. Go ahead ABSTAIN!!! For ever.
2007-11-20 08:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋