My boyfriend's parents took me out once. When the bill came I offered to pay for my share and they said "don't be ridiculous." Next time they take me out should I assume it is again their treat? I am 30 years old.
2007-11-20 08:18:35 · 18 answers · asked by ELK 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, if they are taking you out they ar paying (esp based on past experiences with them). However, it doesn't hurt to offer. If they tell you "no, don't be ridiculous again" then from that point on stop offering because they'll get offended.
2007-11-20 08:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette wise, whoever does the inviting pays, unless that person mentions that it's dutch treat or something like that. Also to consider, are they far richer than you? If so, don't worry about it. If it really bothers you, offer to pay the tip or something, or make a dessert to share at your house after dinner. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate, you can even pick something up from the grocery store or your favorite bakery, just have coffee and/or tea along with it and serve it on nice plates. Sometimes just having someone make an effort to contribute is appreciated.
2007-11-20 16:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never assume anything, what you did as far as offering to pay for your share was very correct, at some point(after a few more dinners from them) you might want to take them out to dinner, if that's too expensive, prepare a homemade dinner and invite them over, if that's not possible, you can buy a real nice Thank You card ( thanking them for all the wonderful dinners) and inside put a gift certificate to a restaurant you think they might enjoy...
2007-11-20 20:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't ever assume anything anymore. I am to afraid of offending someone. Just always politely offer to pay or chip in and that should be sufficient. They will probably pick it up anyway but you never know and you would hate to be embarrassed over it.
2007-11-20 16:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Waterwitch E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You offered and that was nice. If there is a next time just sit quietly when the check comes. You can always offer to at least leave the tip.
2007-11-20 22:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would still be polite and offer to pay. They will not accept but at least you didn't assume they would. Everyone saves face.
2007-11-20 18:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on your past experience with them expect them to pay but have enough cash to pay for your own. Offer to pay the tip or for drinks. Invite them out sometime and let them know it will be your treat for all the wonderful times they have taken you out to eat. Or consider fixing a nice meal at your place and invite them over.
Occassionally, my in-laws or my parents will pay for my meal but I make sure to have money on me to pay my own way. Since they refuse for me to pay, I will make sure that I treat them sometime even if it is only dessert.
2007-11-20 16:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by cookin_spa_girl 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Usually the one who does the asking also does the paying.
2007-11-20 16:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never assume. I would request to at least leave the tip. Maybe in the future you could treat them. They may always refuse to let you treat them, but at least it would make you look like you don't take their generosity for granted.
2007-11-20 16:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dearie,
When anyone invites you out to eat, you should assume you are paying, unless they say something like "Let's go Dutch."
Of course, a smart girl always keeps some emergency money in her purse in the event that the inviters turn out to be welchers.
2007-11-20 16:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Emily Litella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋