What does "If you ever need someone to talk to, let me know. And I mean that." mean coming from an ex.

Question

So I hadn't talked to my ex for about a good month or so. I quit talking to her, took her off my myspace ect. . .just so I could get over her. She is the one who left me. Last week, I sent her an email saying "Hi, I just wanted to see how you and your little girl were doing." Cause that was really all I wanted to know. I still care alot for both of them. She responded back were doing fine, and asked how I was doing. I told her I was doing okay and that I missed spending time with her and her daughter, but I needed time with no communication with her so I could get over her. She responded back with "If you ever need to talk, let me know. And I mean that." I never responded back.

I still love this girl with all my heart, but I don't want to misinterpret anything she says. Is she just saying this to be nice? Or is it possible that I should pursue talking with her and maybe things could work out? As much as I'd like to be just friends, I can't look at her that way, so I hope that isnt

how she is implying it.

Answer 1

It means just that....she has known you for a while now and considers you to be a "friend". But you are right, you've got this figured out, you can no longer be her friend. You just need to continue to cut the ties and not talk to her and go on as best as you can. You are right, she's just being nice because deep down she knows that she has caused you a lot of pain and knows that you are a good guy, but for some reason no longer the guy she is looking for. Keep you chin up, you sound like a great guy. Going thru a break up is tough. Sooner or later you will find some one who genuinely and truly loves and appreciates you. Don't give up! :o)

Answer 2

I have an ex as well. I enjoy the fact that she doesn't call. In your case you said she left you. That is the key. You calling her to check on their well being is fine. She was only reciprocating the kindness. She is human and may still have feelings as you do. Don't read into it that this is a call to come back. The suicide rate after splits is high. Take the advice and if you really do need to talk to another person go ahead and talk to her. A counselor would be better. That way you don't read things into the conversation that you and her are getting back together.
There may always be a place in your heart for her and her daughter. You do need to split it off with her for awhile. She needs to do so thinking and so do you. I do not know if it is right to ask if there is ever any chance that she and you will get back together again. If you did ask and the answer was no at least you would know where you stand and can move on in your life. Good Luck

Answer 3

It sounds like she is being nice, but yet only you can really tell how she means it. You're the one that dated her. My interpretation of it is that she hopes all is well with you, and that if you ever were in trouble, or just needed someone to talk to that she would be willing to be there for you. I wouldnt analyze it too much. Just be honest with her and if you dont think that you can handle being friends with her without being in a relationship than she should probably know that so things dont get awkward between the two of you.

Answer 4

I think she is meaning because you 2 were together that she would know how you feel, so if you need to talk she would be there for you. I don't think she means it in a way that you 2 will get back together. Or she just felt she needed to say that, you know like a friend would say to you.

Answer 5

I think she's sincere, but I wouldn't look at it as her trying to hook back up. Obviously, she cares for you and is concerned for you even though she broke it off. If you think you can develop a friendship with her, then I would slowly communicate with her more often and keep it on a "friends" level. There's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex if you can respect each other. But if you feel you aren't ready, then be frank with her about it. I think she'd understand if you need more time. For right now, try to keep yourself occupied, and focus on yourself and your little girl. It will be ok and good luck!!

Answer 6

I am truly sorry to say it, but from a female perspective, sounds like she wants to be friends. On the positive side, staying friends with her could give you an opportunity later on down the line. For now, she probably knows she hurt you pretty bad and is trying to make herself feel better by offering to help you if you need it.

Answer 7

you honestly deserve someone better than that. that is a nice way of letting you know that she does not want to be anything more than your friend. i hope that you truly find the love of your life, as it sounds like you have a good heart to give. just do not give it to the wrong person. at this point, because your feelings were involved with this girl, your heart is fragile, and deserves someone who will take care of it. good luck

Answer 8

Sorry that I can't help you more but here is a saying that helped me when I was in your situation...'If you're in trouble and don't know what to do, Follow your heart and it'll lead you to the truth.' Think about it, what does your heart tell you. And I think you're very sweet for even thinking serously about a girl coz all the girls out there know that this is nearly impossible to find. Atleast for me...maybe ima wierdo...anyways hope this helped^-^

Answer 9

This depends only on her. When I broke up with my boyfriend, we tried to be just friend but that resulted to be impossible. We always argued about the way that he cheated on me and stuff like that. You should consider tanking to her, but be careful not to fall in love all over again with a ghost of your past. Maybe she is just being friendly, thinking that you would need to find a friend in her.....I think. Any way , be careful ;)

Answer 10

Well, it depends on the person. When I was told that, I was in your situation. A month later, we were back together. Start talking to her again, get close, and go with your gut.