I've been divorced for quite a while now and my ex husband knows I've already moved on since the separation, as he has also. I just got engaged to my bf of almost a year in October and that same week we became pregnant. I already have 3 boys with my XH so this will be my fourth. I told my kids about the baby and they are so excited but I've told them to keep it quiet for now and not to tell their dad just yet, until I'm ready for him to know. My question is how do you break that kind of news to an ex husband when you know it will make him a little upset. He had a vasectomy before we separated because he didnt' want any more kids. I don't want him "wishing" bad things for us and the new baby.. =( should I tell him? He'll eventually know anyway.
Thanks!!
2007-11-20 06:08:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I care because my boys visit him every other weekend and he tends to take his personal issues out on them sometimes.. I don't want him getting upset with them. He always says he still wants me back and wishes we could be a family again. (he has a history of stalking me and also being violent which is why we're divorced) I don't want anything bad to happen.
2007-11-20 06:15:49 · update #1
He needs to just get over it. My friends' XW was the same way.
When her XH had kids with his new wife, she went into a deep depression. They divorced. Almost 10 years later she still blames him because he refused to get her pregnant, and now it is too late.
2007-11-20 19:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Your Brother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't read any of the other responses...
I'd tell him when you're about 5 months pregnant.
By this stage you're past the "scary" point.
The only problem I'd see is that you're asking your children to "lie" and to withhold info..
That's the only problem I see in this.
I'm sorry if he'll be sad, upset, angry, depressed, etc about your happiness.. but it's your kids who really matter in this situation..
So try to not keep it hush hush too long for their sake.. no one elses.
2007-11-20 07:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by No stalkers allowed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 21:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these commentors,
Keep it on the dl for now, when your about 3 months along,
Let him know, on a long break from their dad, this way they don't feel the brunt of it,
Personally ,I let my Son tell his grandparents and they told My X
I guess its cause i am a coward. AHAHAHAH
but its easier, because i knew my X would hide his emotions from my son, and it would have given him time to mull it over, before we saw eachother,
Just easier,
But from my X experience,the stalking never stops,
and its not your problem, JUST be careful,
Protect your family
Good LUCK
and congrats on the NEW BABY and Upcoming Marriage.
M
2007-11-20 06:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, all in all it's really none of his buisness.
Remember HE was the one that didn't want any more kids, not you. It takes two to tango.
He's not the father of this new one coming. If he wishes bad things upon your family then it is his psycological problem. You're not appart of his personal life anymore and visa versa.
The only thing personal you two have together is your kids that you made together.
2007-11-20 06:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.W. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Really its not his concern about your relationship now. you two got divorced for a reason.
he got fixed because HE didnt want more kids. you and him arent having anymore so he really has nothing to say about the matter. its not like you two were still together at the time of your pregnancy. just let things go, if your kids say something to him then whatever, its not his buisness other than that~
2007-11-20 06:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what your ex-husband will think about the new baby that you and your fiancé are going to have together? It does not matter if he is going to be mad about it. It's not his child and he decided he didn't want to have anymore children. Therefore, he got himself the vasectomy. Don't worry about what he's going to think or say. Just don't worry about it.
2007-11-20 06:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by coloradogirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt doubt he already knows...kids can never keep quiet, especially about stuff like that! but if he doesnt, then you need to tell him quick. dont tell him in a 'i didnt mean to disappoint you' tone. just tell him you found out some good news and you wanted to let him in on it since it does have an affect on your kids.
2007-11-20 06:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It doesn';t matter how he feels about it. He got the vesectomy b/c he didn;t want any more children. If you ask him to get it b/c you didn't want anymore than its a different situation. But since he didn;t want anymore he made himself sterile and its your decision to have children not his.
2007-11-20 06:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I would never tell my XH my personal business.
2007-11-20 06:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by sahel578 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋