Not sure if this is the right place. but i need some thoughts on how it was the first time you all moved out.?

Question

I am living with my parents currently and well i wont lie they fight alot and i feel like i hold them together sometimes...thats one thing keeping me from doing this right away another is finding a new job and not knowing if the place i have to live at is going to work out. Dont get me wrong i love my parents very much but i feel like i need to go, like if i try and keep them happy i wont be doing anything but making myself unhappy. but i guess i just want some thoughts and answers as to how you all felt the first time you left. was there alot of...anger or maybe crying lol or just nothing at all. i want to know if what im doing is the right thing to do.

Answer 1

I left home 3 days after high school graduation and moved into a small 1 bedroom apartment. It was strange and I was lonely and missed my parents. The first few months, I think I spent most of my time on the phone with my Mom because I just wanted to hear her voice. Then I started having people over a lot because I was lonely alone. Then I finally started to get over it some. It was hard for me at first, but I got over it.

If you're old enough and you think you need to go- then go. Don't stay behind because of guilt.

Answer 2

Both my daughters moved out when they were ready, and they are always welcome to come back. I was very happy for them and felt they were making good decisions.

Life is about taking risks to get to the place you want to be. You are not responsible for your parents and you don't have enough power to keep them together. They are grown ups(even if they don't act like it) and lived their lives just fine before you came and will again, when you leave.

Go on with no regrets and live your life. That's what its all about.

Answer 3

Your parents need to stay together or split up based on their relationship. If it is going to happen when you move out, why put off the inevitable? I hope it work out for them but it is really up to them.

If you are ready to move out and capable of supporting yourself you need to do it. It is both scary and fun at the same time. Take it from someone who has been there, pay your bills on time and keep your credit clean (very important as you go along). Best of luck.