Lately I have been really impatient with my husband. He keeps asking me for help with documents, filling out forms and doing all kinds of things for him. Because I refuse and he won't do these things himself and then he turns around and asks his MOTHER to do these things for him.
He hasn't had a job for a while and I can BARELY afford to keep us above water. He won't take the ONLY car we have during the day while I'm at work to look for a job. He won't look for a job or call potential employers to see if they are hiring unless I get on his case.
I’ve been so stressed out because I’m on the brink of losing my job and he wants me to do everything for him and he won’t do a thing. I don’t know what to do, other than continue refusing to things for him. When he calls to complain about something, I snap at him like he’s a child. What can I do to stop from being impatient?
2007-11-20 05:35:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You do no need to stop being impatient. You need to lay down the law before you go totally insane. Send him to live with his mother. She seems to be ok with him being unemployed and apparently still likes to do things for him. Last year I became unemployed but looked for a job like a mad woman. Coincidentally, my bf's job got really slow and didn't work much, but he wouldn't do anything about it. He wouldn't call other friends to give him a day or two of work...nothing. So I told him, if you're not going to help me out here you need to go stay with your Mom because it's not fair that my family is helping us out with groceries and cash and you just lay around here and eat it up. He got up on his feet quite quickly after that.
And if you have to drive him to job interviews yourself, then do it. Or just give him an ultimatum, get to workin' or get to leavin'.........
2007-11-20 05:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not impatient. Your husband appears to be comfortable. Maybe you should go away for a couple of days with the impression that you will leave if things dont get better even though youre not. You have to prove a point
2007-11-20 09:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by tarshabee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be impatient. The situation calls for at least that on your part. I'd be totally fed up. He needs to be frightened into action. Pretend to leave him & see if he snaps to. If not, he's a lost cause. You don't need to go down the tubes with him.
2007-11-20 05:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're on the main appropriate music. Your mistake replaced into babying him like his mom does. You waited to long to place your foot down so now he's doing what he has been doing for the previous years. you may would desire to stroll for a minute. you may desire to look for some marriage counseling. he isn't a guy he's a boy. what's easily there for? it extremely is the section in the marriage maximum folk can not cope with and that's for greater useful or worst...
2016-10-02 03:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is about YOU not him...Impatience isn't what is needed A DIVORCE court lawyer is what you need......and a good counselor to help you walk away from your moocher husband...YOURE his CASHCOW....
2007-11-20 07:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋