I had very good reasons for getting divorced and do not question that. I also do not question that I am completely forgiven, as I have asked and receive God's grace in this. I am struggling with going forward though. Yes, I have prayed, a lot. I appreciate all the spirit filled answers that I can elicit from all you good folks. I love all variety of opinions, but I know all about the secular opinions. I am looking for some good Christian opinions, here. Thank you so much.
2007-11-20 04:37:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, God will bless you and will give you another chance. My God is a God of second, third fourth fifth sixth and seventh chances!! You once mentioned that song by casting crowns, how far the east is to the west, and it is so true. All sins are equal in the eyes of God. And God has forgiven your sin.
I went through a divorce before. I was in no way living my life for God at that time. After some time spent together, I tried to get my life right with God, and tried to steer our marriage in the right direction. But I realized that it would never happen. I fell of the wagon figuring if I wasn't gonna do it right why even bother, and did more wrong myself. Years later, I gave up and we ended up getting divorced. The years following I fell even further into depression and further down and down. I tried to get on with my life apart from God, but realized that if I didnt return to God, I'd die without him. So i gave my life back to God..
After returning to God, I got to a point that I thought that I didn't deserve to be happy. Maybe unhappiness was my lot in life. Maybe being alone was what I was meant for for the rest of my life. But I later learned that that just wasnt true. God had more in store for me. He used my heartache and pain to bring me to a new place. He used the lessons I learned from different men to bring me to the right place. He used my wrongs for His goods. The verse that says "all things work together for the good for those who love God, for those are called according to his purpose," thats what that means to me. God used my bad for his good.
God brought me to a man that I wouldn't have needed if it had not been for the pain in my past. I wasnt looking for him, we just came together. I do believe that God brought us together. I believe it took both of our heartaches to get us to be right for eachother. Some might not agree, but for me, it this is no arguement. I need him, and he needs me. God has blessed us abundantly. We struggle in this life, but thats just life. We put God first, then our family.
Now, no explaination of divorce can excuse it. But it is in the past. I believe its forgiven. It's forgotten. I can't for an instant believe that God won't bless remarried couples. I know SO many couples who have been divorced and are now fully commited to serving God first as a couple. Deacons, pastors even. I know that the Bible says many things about divorce. But I have to believe that God is using my past mistakes to reach places in this world and people in this world. Like my husband. Like his family. Like all of the people who know me, seeing how badly I went awry and know how dedicated to God I am now. Its living proof of God's healing, forgiveness and personal hand in our lives.
Jesus said to get to heaven believe in him. Follow the ten commandments. Love the lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength and love your neighbor as yourself. Be disciple makers.
We all sin. And we are all just a prayer away from being forgiven. I'll end with something I heard a pastor say once. We are all works in progress. We won't be perfect until we get to heaven.
In Christ, Joyful
2007-11-20 09:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Joyful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question for me to answer. I'm sure it's hard for you as well. Biblically, the only verse that directly talks of this that I can think of is:
Matthew 19:9 I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."
So, technically, if your ex-spouse marries someone else first, you would be OK to go ahead if I read that right.
On the other hand I do know quite a few Christian couples that have remarried. They seem happy and blessed. Some have come out of abusive relationships. I cannot imagine God wanting people to be in those. I also know that God is forgiving and loving and we aren't living under the law anymore.
An indirect verse I can think of is:
1 Corinthians 6:12 Everything is permissible for me, but not everything is helpful. Everything is permissible for me, but I will not allow anything to control me.
So, basically my answer is I have no idea. I do wish you the best though.
2007-11-20 07:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by MikeM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can.
I am living proof of this.
Remember, the unforgivable sin is blasphemy of the holy spirit so I don't think divorce counts as that. Sure it causes problems and all that but that doesn't mean it can never work out.
I was divorced. I got remarried to a very wonderful person. I cannot imagine my life without this person. We've been together for 6 years now and will be having a child next year.
I can't say that about my ex-wife though...
I'm also closer to God than I ever had been so go figure.
Let me give you one hint... don't let a self-righteous idiot tell you anything different.
2007-11-20 06:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Mad Padishah 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can! Regardless of the reason's you divorced, if you have asked for forgiveness than you can know that God has forgiven you and He doesn't hold your divorce against you. The bible says that He throws our sins into the sea of forgefulness and doesn't remember them.
In addition, I believe that sometimes God releases people from their marriage especially if it was one that He didn't put together in the first place and we acted outside of His will. Another reason is it is because of abuse. God does not want His children to be abused!!!!
God does want to bless you! Just keep seeking Him, get healing for your past marriage and learn from it. Wait on the Lord and He will bless you!
2007-11-20 05:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by junebug 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Bide your time and keep up the good work. You have already started the process and she will see the change in you. When she does set the meeting with you, let her lead the conversation at first. Just see where she wants to go with things. If she wants to open up then go for it. If she asks how things are tell her what you have been doing, tell her about church, and the mens help group and how you feel like you are different in so many ways and all for the better. I am sure she still cares for you. You never know what may happen in the future. Good luck and God bless.
2016-04-05 00:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already been given what I believe to be godly advice, but I wanted to briefly share with you my thoughts.
If your ex has not remarried, you still have the opportunity to be reconciled and have the marriage that God wants you to have. My advice is that you need to have as your goal and your sole desire to honor God first and foremost and not to be influenced by your emotions, your history in the marriage, and what the world would tell you to do.
If you can allow yourself to have that desire (to honor God by being reconciled to your spouse), there will no doubt be a lot of pain in getting to that point, a lot of swallowing pride on both parts, forgiveness perhaps on both parts, repentence, and a struggle to persevere that no one can even imagine unless they've been through it themselves.
I messed up in my marriage and threw in the towel, never giving God a chance to change me and giving me the love for my wife that I had allowed to disintegrate because of my selfishness.
I will never know how God could have blessed me, my wife, our children, her service to God, my service to God, the witness that we could have had to other couples contemplating and experiencing divorce. In short, I will forever regret being the one who singlehandedly destroyed my marriage.
I could write so much more about my situation, but I've gone on long enough.
May I just close by encouraging you to wrestle until you have peace about what is the best decision you can make that will bring the maximum glory and honor to God.
God bless!
2007-11-20 06:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by David 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want good Christian answers to this question, I suggest you read through some of the material on this website:
http://www.gotquestions.org/search.php?zoom_sort=0&zoom_query=divorce
God Bless.
2007-11-20 06:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by catwomanmeeeeow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can! Believe that if it's God's will for you to remarry, then He will provide a wonderful husband for you. Stay in prayer and be patient. God will always come through for you. Remember that, sweetie.
You are in my prayers. :)
2007-11-20 06:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, remarrying after getting a divorce is expressly condemned in the Bible. Unless you can get an annulment (which basically is proof that your first marriage was invalid) you're stuck.
I am sorry for you!
2007-11-20 06:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Daewen 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Jesus said ....
Mat 5:31 ¶ It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
Mat 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
2007-11-20 06:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by juliette 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋