i am bisexual and have a girlfriend. our relationship is pretty good except for this one problem- all of her other friends are welcome to stay in her house. one of her friends is even staying over for thanksgiving, meeting all her nieces and nephews and such. but i am not welcome to even go to her house. this makes me intensely jealous bc i should be the one sharing her life with her, seeing her with her family, etc. my gf doesn't even understand why this is bothering me so much. do you think i have a right to feel that i do? should my gf be more understanding?
2007-11-20 04:25:04 · 4 answers · asked by the w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all props for you and coming out and saying your sexual orientation. You do have a right to feel the way you do but also you have to understand what is going through her ind... Of course you should be going over to her house and spend thanksgiving with her. Maybe she wants to wait for you to be with her family instead of you guys just meeting all at once... So your not overreacting but maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with her and get your feelings out on the table and let her tell her side of the story. Just try it i hope it works and good luck!!!!!!!
2007-11-20 04:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by I own the heart tht you broke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you male or female? If you're another girl, maybe she hasn't told her parents she likes women yet and thus can't bring you along without letting the cat out of the bag.
If you can't be in a relationship the whole way and be serious about each other (as it seems she's not serious about you, the way she doesn't see why it bothers you that you can't meet her family), it's not going to work out. I would be heartbroken if my boyfriend said I couldn't meet his family, and I know he would be upset if I said "no, sorry, you have to spend Thanksgiving alone; I'm going to be with my family and you're not invited".
2007-11-20 12:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny you definately have every right to be upset. this isnt cool. im not bi but id definately be mad if my boyfriend said i wasnt allowed to meet his family cus his other friends are going to be there. im the "EXTREMELY jealous" type. i was even jealous of my ex's female cat Marina that lived at his moms house that he only saw every once in a while. its weird i know but owell. anyways the point is jsut let her know how you feel and whether it turns out good or bad depends on the kind of person she is and whether shes good for you or not. GOOD LUCK!! and happy turkey day!!!
2007-11-21 19:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by <3nikksbabehgirl<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand the situation. Is it your girlfriend who won't let you come over, or her parents? Either way, if you are bothered by this, and your girlfriend doesn't get it, maybe you have the wrong girlfriend.
2007-11-20 12:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋