i asked my bf whats his fantasy?

Question

we were justing lying on his bed talking, and i asked him whats his fantasy. and he said it doesn't matter because it's not like it's going to happen any time soon. because i'm a virgin and we haven't gone pass anything but foreplay. so i straddle him and push him down on the bed and told him maybe he might get lucky one of these days, and it would be good to know. and he told me that he would want for me to be his slave, and for me get down on my hands and knees and crawl to him on my hands and knees, and beg him for it.
(What the hell?) i s what i was thinking, i almost laughed a little.
but he was serious because he was gripping my waist tight and i could feel that he was turned on.
and he told me that he wants to tie me up and listen to me cry and moan, while he pleases me. and i was thinking thats kind of scary and weird and how could i not know he was into this sort of thing after a year and a half.

what do you think?

Answer 1

Given you're still a virgin, this probably does seems a little scarey. But, keep an open mind. You don't have to do this right away. You're allowed to take your time and wait until you're ready to start having sex. Once you do, and you feel you're comfortable, and you believe you can trust him, what he's suggesting is pretty harmless and could probably be fun.

Again, you need to be ready. You need to know that you can trust him completely. Letting someone else tie you down can be scarey but if you truly know that he wouldn't do anything to hurt you, it could be fun.

Another way to ease into the light bondage, would be to tell him that you're going to put your hands over your head as though you were tied down and here comes the hard part, you have to behave as though you really are tied down. You'd have the peace of mind that if you got uncomfortable, your hands really are free but you absolutely have to let him play and only use your hands if you're feeling threatened. You can't cheat just because you can't hold out and you want to touch him or join in the fun.

This way, you could see what it might be like - use it as a test run. Then, when and if you're ready, you could try some soft, light restraints that you're comfortable with.

As far as the being his slave and crawling and begging...well, that's not bad, it could be fun for both of you.

Again, please don't feel pressured into doing anything until you're ready. We all have fantasies and not all of them come to fruition.

Good luck...

Answer 2

Lots of folks are into BDSM. You asked him & he told you.
Lots of people also hide their fantasies from their partenters b/c they are afraid those fantasies will drive their parteners away.
So, if this relationship is something y'all want to keep alive & healthy, talk about your fantasies, yours as well as his. Some will be no/no's some will be maybe's some might even be fun for both of you!
But you really need to have open & forthright discussions before you even think about indulging in any of them-set ground rules, boundries, how it will affect the relationship, etc.
If not indulging in a fantasy is a dealbreaker, end the relationship while your still friends & go find partener's that are more compatable. Otherwise one or both of you will end up feeling miserable or cheating, or both.

Answer 3

Some people get off on different things. Your Boyfriend might have some psychological issues. But usually this type of sexual behavior is normal in older people. Not so much in younger people. I think he wants to tie you up because he wants to be in control. But be careful, before you do this let him know what your safe word is just in case you want to opt out because you really are in pain and feel in danger. I heard of some instances when a couple did this kind of thing and went too far. he guy ended up killing his girlfriend. Very Sad.

Answer 4

what's powerful for the goose.. turn the tables babe! tell him if he needs this myth made actual, which you will desire to sense risk-free approximately it. make advantageous he's conscious the version between you yelling for mercy, and you desiring out. once you're tied up you're litterally tied up, he can do something he needs, and wager what, he won't even comprehend whats next! hahaha.. so communicate approximately it for a on an analogous time as, perhaps pay attention to three others in comparable circumstances, different fantasies... and spot in case you could not incorporate your edgy fantasies into it as properly.

Answer 5

You were teasing him, and he was excited. Basically you asked for it, so don't judge him too harshly for telling you the truth.
You asked to know his fantasy and in his excitment he told you. Everyone has fantasies, sometimes they want to act on them, sometimes they are just that...fantasies. Since you are inexperienced it sounded to you as if it would be scary, but if you were in an intimate relationship based on love and trust you might have found it exciting too.

Answer 6

It's just fantasy. He's not like a serial killer or anything. And it won't happen unless you agree to it, unless he forces you to. Then you call the cops. But otherwise, just think about it and see if you'd be ok with it. Who knows, you might just love it.

Answer 7

its just a sexual fantasy. But if he carries out those emotions outside of your sex life, then I would worry. But he said he wants to tie you up and please you, so you should try it when you are ready. And moaning and crying are the good sounds of sex

Answer 8

Personally, helllll no. I think that is way to weird to be crawling around like that. If you're not into it, don't do it.

Answer 9

Wow.... sounds like a bit much / awkward just because it sounds like you are both young.

Answer 10

You asked for it and you got it!!!! Its only a fantasy unless you make it a reality!!!