My girlfriend and I have been broken up for 4 months and she called me recently and told me that she misses me and that we had a special relationship. She has been seeing someone else and she has told me several times that he isnt what she wants, they dont have the same connection we have, etc., but she never comes back to me. I think she is just stringing me along, so I told her the last time we talked that I thought she was just messing with me and that I didn't think that she should call me again EVER. When I told her that she hung up on me and I havent heard from her in about a week. I DO love her, but I dont want to be second best or my head played with. I want to be with her because I love her like I no one else. I just dont know what to do. We do have a special relationship but I cant move on if she keeps trying to contact me and tell me how much she misses me, etc. What should I do? Should I ever consider being with her again? If she calls again, should I answer or ignore her?
2007-11-20 03:40:58 · 9 answers · asked by zarro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on and start dating others. This gives you an opportunity to see if there is someone else you can love. You may love your ex, still and that is ok. Seeing others gives you opportunities for adventure and making female friends if the "in love" part doesn't happen. If it is meant for you and your ex to get back together, time will definitely take care of that and you will find each other again.
2007-11-20 03:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by luke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I think it's best you both not talk to eachother as much. She's confused on what she wants. She may still love you but she may feel that she wants something different and feels like it may be the same thing all over again if ya'll date and she's scared it may become boring so that's why she's hanging on to someone else. I wouldn't wait around for her to make a decision. I would go ahead with life and if she decides she wants to be back with you and you're in the same place with yourself as you are now, then you can try again. For now, just move on and let her make her own life choices on her own. She wants her cake but she wants to eat it too (as the odl saying goes).
2007-11-20 11:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by dAyLiTe_DaNcEr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, seems the second relationship isn't working and she's not a strong enough woman to be able to stand on her own two feet without someone to "love" her. You don't need to be 2nd fiddle. Back out a little and let time go by and see what happens - She's only in love with love, not with you
2007-11-20 11:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Empress Jan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it another go, if you dont it sounds like it will drive you crazy. She is going to break your heart again, but better to have her break your heart one more time so you can be over it, than to spend months or years wondering "what if we got back together". Life is to short. have fun, see what happens , if it works it works if not its reality =) and then you can move on with a clear mind and find the person who will make you happy.
2007-11-20 11:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Edward H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur best option is to ignore her and let her come to u if she really wants to ... because she shouldnt be playing with ur head like that esp since she has a bf....what u did was a good thing...let her find her true self and figure out who she really wants to be with....and if its not u dont be sad just try to move on :)
2007-11-20 11:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her unless she breaks off with the other person.
In stead of being concerned about this, focus on things in which you have interest and find other people who have similar interests. You will be surprised to find that others will become far more important to you than this person who isn't adult enough to make a commitment with anyone.
2007-11-20 11:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you know what's going on. You're being keep warm just in case she needs you down the road.
She has had ample time to re-think and decide for once and for all what she wants, and if she's still with the other guy,that's where she should stay.
2007-11-20 11:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats topugh , just listen up..
u go give her a call and tell her for u and her to meet up and talk about it and tuff but tell her its NOT a date until u two talk...
than just meet up and tallk and see wat the deal is with her and wanting u back and if ur heart says go back to her than do so if ur heart say no never, than go with .."i am sorry and i love u but plz just dont get mad at me that i dont want to be with u just take it as we are really good best freinds."
and just make that sentence ur own..
its tough i no, just stay strong do the thing that ur heart tells u too...good luck!!!!
hope i helped and made it easyer for u to decide !
bye!
2007-11-20 11:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by hjlkjh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her and see if she'll go out of her way to comute with you. but it seems like she is playing with you, shes says she wants you back and misses but it never happens, shes just a tease.
2007-11-20 11:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by dgh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋