My friend's daughter is getting married. I do not really know her daughter or her fiance. I have known this friend for several years but she gets on my nerves somewhat and goes to a church that I don't attend anymore. This is awkward. What should I do without causing problems? Plus this wedding the day before new years eve.
2007-11-20 02:57:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The wedding is in the church I don't attend anymore and I don't have friends there, plus I don't like the pastor.
2007-11-20 02:58:16 · update #1
Just politely decline. It should be easy enough as the wedding is happening over the holiday period when people are busy with their families. Use family committments as an excuse. Then go out for the day
2007-11-20 06:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Send back an RSVP card if there is one and check that you will not be attending. No explanation is required or necessary. Your friend probably won't think a thing of it and if she does, she will probably assume like the other people who will not come, that you already have plans. Considering the wedding is so close to not one but TWO holidays they must be expecting a number of guests will not be able to attend. No offense, but they probably won't notice your absence all that much. And if you do get asked about it, just politely say you're sorry but you simply can't make it.
Too often people get trapped into thinking they have to have an "excuse" not to go to a wedding or other social occasion. This isn't true, if you don't want to attend, don't. Especially, if the friendship is waning or awkward.
2007-11-20 11:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Send your regrets that you cannot attend, and a small gift from the registry. It is common for the parents to invite their close friends to the wedding, but it don't want to go or are unable to go you should send regrets. A small gift to the couple honors your friendship with the mother.
EDIT: The reason I saw to pick a gift from the registry instead of sending cash/check/gift card is because sending something small from the registry won't look as cheap to the daughter's mother as sending $20.
2007-11-20 11:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had this same thing happen to me!! My friend's daughter was getting married, the girl barely spoke to me, and her fiance never gave me the time of day.
I declined. I didn't feel bad about it, just sent back the card with no explanation. They told me to respond quickly, because if I declined, they could invite the next wave.
I didn't send a card or a gift.
2007-11-20 11:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nowadays weddings are so political, I think you should never go to a wedding you dont want to attend. The whole point is to be there with the happy couple on their special day adn to wish them well, and if you dont have those feelings, or are just attending to make someone happy then you shouldnt go. Trust me, as a bride, I dont want to pay for a plate for someone that isnt really there for me, and I dont want to exclude other possible guests inorder to invite this person either. People understand that not everyone can attend, and if that is your decision they should be fine with it and you should not feel guilty.
2007-11-20 11:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by tink 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You never have to attend a wedding, and it would probley make you uncomfortable since its not like you and your friend are going to be sitting together and chatting. I would say that you have plans for the holidays and sent a nice gift.
2007-11-20 11:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel at ease there and don't have a reason to attend, then don't. Instead, send a nice congratulations card for the couple, and maybe a small gift. And plead a previous engagement.
2007-11-20 11:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tigger 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go. Send a polite note of regret to your friend "I am so sorry I won't be able to attend Sally's wedding. Please extend my congratulations and best wishes."
You don't have to send a gift, but if you don't you're likely to lose contact completely with the friend. That's your choice.
2007-11-20 11:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just decline when the invitation comes, and if your friend asks why you can invent something you already had a prior commitment to. I bet her daughter and fiance dont care that you wont come since they barely know you.
You should still send a card and gift since you were invited.
2007-11-20 11:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go. No one should feel like they have to attend. Send your polite regrets in a nice card and offer your best wishes to the couple. You don't need to go into any reasons why you couldn't attend.
2007-11-20 11:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋