"F**k buddy" getting jealous, what's his problem?!?

Question

Basically, me n my "f**k buddy" were out with mutual friends on saturday nite, and i was dancing with 1 of his mates and my "f**k buddy" walked off the dancefloor n stood near the bar all nite, when my friend went up 2 him and asked what was wrong he said "why does he want her for?" and kept looking over at us. Towards the end of the night when i went to speak 2 him he was alright and texted me when we were home.

I just don't understand y he is acting all jealous when he had a chance with me to be more than "f**k buddies" and he was the 1 who said we can do what we want when we want. Now he is being off with me again. Is it just cos he wants what he can't have or what's his problem?

I did want to be with him at one point, but he didn't want anything serious, so i'm not leading him on!

Answer 1

FWB relationships often end up like this. Although in the beginning people claim that they are only there for one reason, eventually all the ugly things that we are trying to avoid from a real relationship creep in and soon enough it is just like a relationship. Jealousy, ownership and questions such as where were you, who were you with etc. begin. Admit that this is happening to this relationship and then you will better understand.

Answer 2

The problem is this... As much as people would like to think and tell themselves it's ok to have a sexual relationship with someone you're just friends with... It's NOT!!! even before you have sex, you have hormones called endorphines that are released to even make it possible for the two to come together and have intercourse. I don't mean to get scientific here, but it just simply was not meant for humans to go around like animals solely for the purpose of mating and passing they're seed on to various different women. That's what animals do... There may be a few situations where it's actually turned into something good, but that's "Just the luck of the draw" and they should thank their lucky stars because those cases are rare.
When you have sex with someone, you're sharing a part of who you are with that person and it creates a bond even though at a very small level, but it still creates that first emotional connection to that person. People are so consumed with how good the sex feels that they ignore the emotional feelings that are taking place. Emotions are present when intercourse is taking place, of course it's different for each person, but the fact that emotions are there is a prime example that as humans we are supposed to make an emotional connection with the person we're intimate with. Therefore, you can not exclude emotions in a "F***K Friend" relationship. Some pay attention to those feelings and can't help but to act on them and others choose not to because they've adapted to shutting them out... Its just that simple.

Answer 3

That's the problem with a relationship as you describe. "Friends with benefits" can get overly attached and think they are exclusive to each other for sex without realizing that one or the other in the relationship treats it as a moore exclusive thing than the other does. They may say they don't care about the other seeing others or sleeping around, when they are actually possessive and jealous when it comes to that part of the relationship.

Answer 4

guys like to fantisize that were so macho that we can have a woman cause we are so awesome
but then get jealous when we realize were not the only fish in the sea
then a man can fall in love with a woman thats brave enough to be free
(if you capture someone thats hard to catch then that makes you a real man)
also we can want to have our cake and eat it too
you stay home and wait for me while i sow my wild oaks
he hasnt worked through his natural jealousy and still he wants to be free and play the field
sounds like he has some insecurity
and he may want to keep you and stay free
so dont let him drag you along while he gets to stay free
tell him
if i sleep with some one else, we cant take that back
so if your gonna stay free expect to see me be free too
so is this what you want?
dont let him trick you
guys often want a good woman to steer him right

good luck

Answer 5

Why are you and this guy as you put it f**k buddies. Don't you want a boyfriend that is loyal to you, you are playing with fire with this guy. He obviously thinks more of you than he is letting on and that is why he is jealous. Either make him your proper boyfriend and put him out of his misery or don't see him.

Answer 6

Everyone gets jealous sometimes....in fact im jealous of him having a f**k buddy!...lol

I think he just knows hes onto a good thing and thought one of his mates was going to take it away from him, I full understand where he is coming from.....make him feel better by taking him to bed.!

Answer 7

I think you have to be a certain person to be able 'just' have sex with someone and not go 'funny' when the other person goes off with someone else etc... I have a F buddy..... and ive been the same....

Answer 8

f--k buddys are a bad idea,it never works,sex is supposed to mean something and usually does to at least one of the couple.Hes not got a problem,hes just human.

Answer 9

i guess he thought he thought he was the one calling all the shots when he said he didn't want anythign serious with you...did he really think u were just gonna wait aroun for him like a sucker?? no way! go dance ur a** off girl! have fun!

Answer 10

this is why you dont have a "**** buddy" you have an honest commited realationship, as long as you live this life style you'll always deal with these issues it comes with the territory...