I keep bumping into guys who seem to love my dirty underpants for the 1st few months then all of a sudden things start going downhill and we're done. I don't think I am a bad person. What is it that women do to hold the attention of guys? I'd love to hear the guys perspective, seriously. Please no crazy responses.
2007-11-20 02:32:31 · 3 answers · asked by Monie N Da Middle/where she at? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mannn, I thought I was going to have a chance to spread my wisdom here but no thanks to "Sexy M and Mandy", I think it's all been said in nut shell. However:):) Each one of us has our own view and own perspective based on our own experiences...
Therefore:):) The only thing that makes him stay... Is him wanting to stay. If he doesn't see that you're a good person with a lot to offer then he wasn't looking for anything to begin with. Be glad he didn't waist too much more of your time.
So what, it goes sour after a few months, Why does that mean it has to have "anything" to do with you?? There are many reason's it could go sour... maybe he got back with an ex, be glad he didn't stick around to drag you through that... Lucky for you, right?
He could have realized that you weren't going to put up with his nonsense and BS... That's a deal breaker with most control freaks... Lucky you again.
Or he simply didn't want the same things from a relationship that you want at that time.
2007-11-20 05:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by kskate2jbs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more..... nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship (AMEN) You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. Make sure you make the “unforgettable” one worth it.
2007-11-20 10:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Aweson response Sexy M!!! I dont know how to follow that cuz it was laced w/ so many of my beliefs. I dont think its anything you can do to make a guy stay if he want to be there then he will just be there, cuz he is in love with who you are as a person,and once he fall in love with the person you are then most times he's stuck (in agood way). I think a lot of guys are attracted to you not only becuz of the physical attraction but they are drawn to who you are, your drive, motivation, productivity etc. I think weakness is a true turn off for many guys, they'd never say it but most guys want a strong women that can hold their own yet be a sensitive women at times, i guess we have to learn how to balance strength and sensitivity.
2007-11-20 11:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki from K-town 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋