As many of you know on here I'm the dude with the girl who slept with 16 men before meeting me. I've been with 8. Should I go out and get more experience? I know this sounds like a dumb question, but I know many men who've asked the same thing in similar situations. Would it prove anything at the end of the day? Looking for responses from people with similar stories.
2007-11-20 02:19:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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1st, never, never share numbers (besides most people lie anyway and for strange reasons). It creates stupid situations where someone feels inadequate or skeeved out and causes a break up.
If you break up with her, break up because you don't want to be with her and be honest about it, don't give some lame excuse like "I want to have more experience". Because using that reasoning, this frees her up to "get more experience" and you will never catch up to her.
2007-11-20 02:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you going to do with 16 that you haven't already done with 8? Unless you want to get into a whole new genre of sexual experience, there's not a whole lot more you can learn. And besides, if you are planning to stay with your current girlfriend, you should be learning from and practicing on her, not anyone else.
It really sounds like you want to break up with this woman, and you're using the discrepancy in partners as an excuse so you can. Face it, you're intimidated by her sexual experience and looking for a way out. Either come to terms with your anxieties or move on.
2007-11-20 02:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to sleep with alot of people to gain sexual experience. All sleeping around does is create opportunity for STD's. There is a difference between getting experience and being a whore. Why not gain experience with your girlfriend. Experiment with her through role play and some cool toys for both of you. Try new positions and new locations, experiment as you gain experience with her. Not to mention it probably is alot easier to score nightly with your girlfriend than with a different girl every night. A new girl every night won't be as logical because you will be starting over with each girl considering every girl isn't looking just for sex. I will say that when an employer looks at your resume, they are more impressed with employees who have gained experience at one facility versus multiple. Having so many different jobs (girls) reflects on you and tells others that you have a problem with commitment. No girl nor guy for that matter wants that experienced of a person as it makes the other partner feel inadequate. Which seems how you feel with your girlfriend. You feel like you must catch up to her experience. Personally I feel that when a person sleeps around that much they have some serious personal issues with themself. The feel they must have sex in order to be wanted/needed. Rather than being with someone for who they are, not what they're willing to do. Really it's all on what you choose to do. But consider that it is more realistic to gain experience with your girlfriend than strangers.
2007-11-20 02:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by zerotimeforfun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this will sounds rude but I think 8 is a respectable number and I think 16 is alot of guys to have been with. I would condone breaking up with anyone for sexual experience, even if she was the only one you have been with. I don't know how old you are but 16 seems high to me.
2007-11-20 02:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have, for many generations, been getting married without sexual experience. I'm talking about my generation, and back, my parents, my grandparents. Usually neither the man nor the woman were experienced sexually. They learned together, over time. But.. in every area of life you get to know each other over time. So.. the sexual experience is not something to concern yourself with. Marriage is like a new birth. A baby learns to sit up, then crawl, then walk, and so on. Such is marriage, and sex within the marriage. The main thing to concern yourself with is to make sure you talk, talk, talk about how each of you are feeling.. about everything. Talk about the sex. Talk about any insecurities you might have; listen to her feelings and insecurities. If she doesn't express them ASK her what she thinks and feels. Ask if she has any uncertainty. Talk. Talk. Talk. I hope I've been "logical, open-minded, and not given standard doctrinal answers"... I've given you MY experience. Take it for whatever it's worth to you. But I'm telling you, it's not the sexual experience that's important, it's the talking about everything that's important.
2016-05-24 07:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think it would be silly foryou to do that. It's not like you have NO experience. And what do you think you will gain by sleeping with 8 more women? NOTHING! except maybe an STD. (JOKING!) But really, I don't think you should because you won't really learn anything you haven't already, and if there is something else you wanna try just ask your girlfriend.
2007-11-20 02:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u shouldnt, unless you want to throw away your relationship forever...it does not matter what she did before she met you...it doesnt matter that she slept with more men than you have women..all that matters is that you both enjoy each other... just try to get over the fact that she has had 16 men...
2007-11-20 02:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by eliza l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but dont be dumb.. for real.. you want more experience? go get a karma sutra book and try it out with your gf..
2007-11-20 02:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by Riss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way: are all these women worth breaking up with your one?
2007-11-20 02:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my 18 yr. old son! Marcus, is that you?
2007-11-20 02:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bobyi P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋