i'm not very good about going out to a bar or some places to meet guys...i'm shy and quiet...not very good about going up to a guy to start a conversation...is there any way for me to meet a guy without having to go out and meet him? plus i don't have many friends to go out and rather not go out alone at nights...please be kind in answering..thanks smiles
2007-11-20 02:11:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should carry on with your day to day life. If you are at the store or something, and you see a cute guy, just smile at him a few times. If he doesn't talk to you, forget about it. There is always tommorow. I always seem to find a chick when I am not looking for one, but when I am actively pursuing girls, it seems harder. Good luck, if this doesn't work, I'll take you out next weekend.
Blind dates are horrible, don't do it.
2007-11-20 02:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by specialtygasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honesy, any guy who meet at a bar is probably not worth while. Not all guys, so keep an open mind, but many. Anyway, try to meet guys in other places. Grocery stores, public transportation (if you live in a city or commute), or anywhere else there are people. The best guys to meet are the ones that aren't out looking, but will go for it if they meet someone. Ramdom places will serve you best.
2007-11-20 10:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Midwest I would suggest that you attempt to meet people by either joining some form of group of people with the same interests as you or by volunteering. If you have any special interests or hobbies than you could find a group and join it as then you would be assured to meet people of same interests as you. Or if you were to become a volunteer not only would you be helping out people less fortunate then you but also possibly make new friends and possibly meet someone whom you may find as a good catch. Good luck, the bar scene is not a place to find to find any type of long term relationship anyway.
2007-11-20 10:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get involved with a few things in your area. It will put you in contact with single guys without having to go out 'trolling'.
It's hard to say without knowing your interests, but here are a few suggestions. I loved being involved in groups when I was single:
Take some type of class (college, cooking, pottery..whatever)
Attend Church
Book Club at a local book store
Volunteer somewhere in your community
Spiritual Development - Usually a new age group/store
2007-11-20 10:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well iam a male 26 and me and my friends are sick and tired of going to pubs/clubs in order to meet girls ....cause it just doesnt work for two reasons
1. you meet a girl on the first and have intercourse and you think little of her and dont call her
2 you actually go out on a date and find you have nothing in common
your not the only one who wants to find a relationship / good person but cant. its a curse of 20 somethings i feel - your to young and feel like an *** to ask someone out when there at work cause its inappropriate and your to old to be picking people up like a teenager at bars
so the things me and my mates identified was this 1. you want to meet people similar to your own age and 2. you want to be in the company of single people
its a hard one at this age (am assuming your a 20 something like me) but we think speed dating is the thing.....am sure they have it where you are (usa) its huge over here plus you could go there alone if you wanted to and its non threatening
2007-11-20 10:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son in the same situation very shy and never goes out . i'll tell you the same thing i told him that he should try the e-harmony to get connected to someone in the same situation as you guy's are because beleave me there is alot of people scared of the dating game and going out is not the way people do it today that's scary in it's on way. good luck sweety.
2007-11-20 10:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by ann m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need to go to bar to meet guys honey,, dont worry about it , just be patient and u will meet a best man when u expecting the least
2007-11-20 10:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by sara s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me. I was with someone for 7 years!!! crazy.... We just recently broke up and now I'm single again. I'm not going out looking. Someone else will come. I'm not in a rush. The key is not to go out looking for someone... its best to just go out and have a good time, and people will be attracted to that. It doesn't matter if you don't have friends to go out with. Just worry about yourself for awhile. Go and do what you want to do... and then someone out there will wanna do it with ya.
2007-11-20 10:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try talking to a person that you already know and like online. Dont try going in a chatroom, but if you are friends wiith someone and like them a little, just start talking to them. Or maybe one of your friends has a friend that you might be interested in. You can talk to them.
2007-11-20 10:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am single too and i dont go out looking for a boyfiend.I am not into a rush either.I like the single life.Just wait and do things you love.It will just happen.For me i lke it to just happen naturally without stressing myself over it.
2007-11-20 10:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋