Friends with benifits , Whats your opinion on it ?

Question

have you done this ?
what was the outcome ?
Did you stay friends ?
Did you wind up together ?
Did you have children?
would you do it againe ?

Thanks in advance for all your opinions ...

Answer 1

It's the best when it works. All the benifits without the stress and complications.
The problem is when one starts getting attached and begins making it into something else.
And not only would i do it again, it's all I would accept right now. I don't want a gf.

Answer 2

Ten years ago it seemed like such a good idea I had her move in with me. Years later we tied the knot. We have a lovely home and child now. Staying friends feels like the foundation. We are among the happiest couples we know, and yes, I plan to do it again ....almost daily. The big difference is we fell in love and so the distance between friends with benifits eventually just go tin the way.

For what it's worth, I am more possesive and jeoulous over who holds the title of being her best friend (me me me) than I ever knew until that's gotten tested recently. I can ignore guys that try to pick her up (somehow they can ignore a huge diamond on her hand), but when guys or gals seem to be approaching her as friends I get oh so jeoulous, lol.

Answer 3

I myself have done it once and it didn't turn out so good. I developed more than just friend feelings after awhile and he did not, turned out BAD.
On the other hand , I know and have known many people who have done this and it turned out good. 2 of them did end up getting married afterwards though...lol
I think you just have to make sure that you know your true feelings when you start and you both come to an agreement on how things are going to go.
Really it is hard to involve sex into a friendship, sex seems to bring up a whack of other feelings, jelousy being one of them. Think of it like this, if you start this with this person and then down the road they find someone who they want a relationship with, will you be hurt if they leave the "benifits"?. If you would, than steer clear of the situation all together. Ask them the same, how THEY would feel, if it is hurt, then the same, leave the benifits alone. A friendship is not worth damaging for the extra's...lol
Good luck

Answer 4

Friends with benefits is crap. A man made this up so that they can sleep around and not have to have a relationship. The only person who benefits is the guy!
No, I would personally never have a friends with benefits relationship. I have to much respect for myself to do something that is so disrespectful to a woman.
I respect my body and would never put myself in a position to get an STD or Aids. Sleeping around puts you in a category that has a higher chance of these thing happening.

EDIT: I have read the responses and even though some women have tried it the women are against it only the guys want this to continue. Like I said the only one who benefits are the men.

Answer 5

Yes, have done this. The outcome was great. We had a great sexual chemistry and was exciting new, fun. We are still good friends, we can talk about anything and everything, even significant others. Never had children, that was agreement. Had a fixed agreement going in, i.e. rules. Yes, I would do it again. It was a great 10 years.

Answer 6

I think it honestly depends on where you are in life. I tried it when I was younger and it didn't work because I always ended up wanting more. Now that I am older and genuinly comfortable with myself it could be a wonderful arrangement because I enjoy my life the way it is, I can take care of my self financially, I enjoy my time alone, I am not searching for anything else to complete me so I could enjoy a friend with benefits without expecting anything else. Basically you just have to be honest about your needs--it's not an arrangement for everyone.

Answer 7

once you're asked to be acquaintances with benifits, their asking to be a intercourse important different. no depend in case you have a guy or they have a woman, the the two certainly one of you will constantly have intercourse, on an analogous time as nevertheless having intercourse with individuals. acquaintances with benifits is all approximately intercourse, which isn't ideal in any respect. that's how human beings finally end up with STD's and ailments alongside that line. So if I have been you, you will desire to tell that individual who you bypass on the supply. that's the two you strictly acquaintances, or nuffin.

Answer 8

I had one for over four years. It worked out well for him but not for me. No matter what you tell yourself that you won't have feelings beyond friendship. I did. I wanted more from the relationship than he did. After 4 years he showed up at my door & told me he wanted to see someone else. I was very hurt. I am happily married now & still communicate with him occasionally thru e-mail. If you are considering this, make sure you think real hard about it first.
Good luck.

Answer 9

i did it once...and in a way it was great. i thought he was hot, i knew he didn't want a relationship...but wow...LOL....
we never had children together although there was one pregnancy scare. we are still friends to this day although we don't sleep together anymore and with him, if i wasn't spoken for now...yes i would do it again.
i don't recommend it for everyone. there are vulnerable people out there...they get really attached even though they don't mean to. and its not what i call a moral lifestyle either...i won't say its right! (i know its not if i'm going to be completely honest)
those were good fun times though...

Answer 10

Yes I've done this.
Well I actually done this with my ex. we broke up but still continued with the benefits. Did not work out
Not friends anymore
She moved on, I'm still looking to move on
No kids
And of course I would do it again, Maybe not with her but with another friend.