Except for the fact she is a pack a day cigarette smoker, she is perfect in every other way. I am a nonsmoker, but allowed her to smoke. But, I just decided I was tired of her smoking, and the fact that she always seemed to have to have a cigarette, was always lighting one, and we always had to make sure she had enough when we went out. It was like an obsession with her. Now I am having second thoughts. Did I do the right thing? What should I do now?
2007-11-20 01:23:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU ARE A MORON!! If a woman is perfect in all ways but one or H3LL even two or three, you do not dump her, women as good as that are d@mn hard to come by. I suggest you get back to her and grovel at her feet.
2007-11-20 01:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, smoking is a deal breaker. I can't stand the smell, it makes me sick, I don't like kissing ash trays, and when I have kids someday, I don't want them to grow up in that unhealthy environment - let alone the fact that the second hand smoke could harm the baby before it's born. I watched my father die of cancer; it wasn't lung cancer, but the experience was awful, and I could not deal with my spouse dying of something so horrendous when it could have been prevented if they just stopped smoking.
If you have the same feelings I do, you probably did the right thing. But only you know how far you're willing to go for someone. Can you live with her smoking and all the issues that it brings? That's only something you can answer.
2007-11-20 01:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothered you that much then you did the right thing. Go with your heart because it will never lead you down the wrong path. If you are not a smoker then you should date someone that is also not a smoker and I bet things will go alot smoother. I know it seems hopeless right now and you are feeling lonely but I promise where one door closes another window opens and the right girl is out there waiting for you
2007-11-20 01:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in being concern about your own health either...if you didn't think it was the right thing to do..you wouldn't have done it...your just feeling guilty over the fact you may have dumb her over something not so important to others or to her. But it is to you...i don't date guys who smoke either or if they do i make sure they smoke away from me...
it does seem pretty obessive of her to choice her smokes over you too, if you have asked her to cut down or stop for you..and she refuses..
you just think she was the perfect one cause you've been with her for so long that you don't know nothing else...if you start dating again, you will see there are other perfect girls out there who don't smoke
2007-11-20 01:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where "preference" comes into play... You cannot change someone nor can you ask them to change for you! However, you can ask them NOT to smoke in your presence. Keep it outside & when going out, not while you are there. Ask her to keep her breath fresh when around you. SHE can then chose to keep the habit or lose it at least when you are not around. I wouldn't leave someone over a habit. I have my own vices & how dare I tell someone what to do, who am I to judge. If she tells you this is silly, then say - Hey, I'm not asking you to quit for me, I know you will when you're ready... however, you wanted to know & so I told you, I hate it!
2007-11-20 01:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe her smoking habit was something you can not get by then yes, but I have to ask you did you really talk to here about it and tell her how it affects you and how you feel?
2007-11-20 01:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Adsharmon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if you talked to her and she went for cigarette instead of you. Not okay if you were looking for a reason and just found the cigars to be one to dumb her. Now you choose.
2007-11-20 01:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no yes for your lungs no for your life you could have tried to take her to counciling there is help out there so you might have made a mistake you might have not but atleast you got her to think whatif she didnt smoke how life would be
2007-11-20 01:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by WTF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋