We broke up a couple months ago and I only got back together with him because then he said that after 5 years he is willing to get married and have children. He never gave me a ring and about a month after we got back together then we fought because he still hadnt gotten me the ring and I felt like he was just saying that. And he said what do you need it right away right now then lets go. And he yelled that so I didnt want it then. We have plans to go to Las Vegas and get married in Feburary or March after we both get our taxes back, but what do I do unitl then? Just say nothing about it, or about him not getting the ring? Do I stop making the plans to go if I dont even have the ring saying that its for sure? I dont want to hound him for it I really do just want him to purpose because he really is in love and wants me as his wife and not because I keep yelling about it. So should I just shut-up and wait even though I keep getting mad and hurt about it?
2007-11-20 01:17:30 · 8 answers · asked by juniper555 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Until February or March just enjoy the best times with him as possible, make him feel like you are his queen and yeah it sounds a bit gay but who cares its your life and if you want to be with this guy you would do, as a loving girlfriend, whatever it takes because when you do the little things for him, he will appriciate you and the magic moment will come :)
2007-11-20 01:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Turkishxwarrior 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, shut up about it. You can't push anyone into marrying you. Yelling about it isn't going to make the situation better, it's just going to back off more. If you really want to get married to him show him you are serious break it off until he has a ring and is prepared to marry you then, not keep giving you excuses about why you guys can't do it now b/c there is always the courthouse. 5yrs is a long time, his philosphy may be "why buy the cow, when I can get the milk free." Stop giving up the "milk" without a ring (not an engagement ring either there are people who are engaged for 10yrs.)
2007-11-20 01:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by madeam3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he has in his on mind when he wants to give you the ring. It may be a money issue for him right now..because he wants you to have something really nice. If you have plans for Vegas, so be it. He isn't going to take you to get married without a ring. You can always purchase him a ring to give him a little more encouragement. Other wise enjoy what you have with each other and when it's right it will happen.
Good Luck.
2007-11-20 01:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by majickspocketpc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he wants you and is in love with you -- how do you feel about him?
Do you want to get married, or do you just want to be engaged? Your argument here is not that he won't marry you; you've said he would, and you've already set a tentative date. You seem to be upset that you don't have a ring and aren't engaged.
A ring is just a thing; what should matter is the fact that you're going to do it. A ring doesn't mean you're going to get married. A lot of people get engaged and something happens -- they change their minds, they break up, they never set a date. Be thankful that you two have plans to get married, and try to worry less about the "object".
2007-11-20 01:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's as committed as you to the relationship. Sounds like he dosen't really want to get married but felt pressured because you left. These things should be natural not forced. He isn't getting the ring and after a month he should have. All girls want some romance and he's not providing any sot hat says to me he dosen't value you enough. Personally I would think very hard about marrying him at all. Value yourself not to put up with this and find a man that is passionate about you and will want to marry you.
2007-11-20 01:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your real focus seems to be the ring. Do you really need it? Do you want him or the rock? My mother waited for 10 years after the wedding to get her 1 carat. The point of engagement/marriage is a promise to give your life to someone else, not a piece of metal that can be bought/sold/lost/stolen. Go to Vegas, get married, be happy. If you want a ring so bad, buy one.
2007-11-20 01:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tina D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like no offence but he may feel nagged and cornered by you and he may also be slightly taken you for granted, does he know you want him so badly that you will keep waiting for him, it sounds that way to me, I would start getting on with my life and stop making plans and do your own thing, don't give him the attention it seems you have been giving him, when he starts to see that your going your own way doing your own thing and not constantly at him it may scare the daylights out og him and he will either realise he will loose you or he will go on to greener pastures
2007-11-20 01:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you go to vegas and there is no ring, count it as your goodbye weekend! until then, give him the room to make his own bed. jd
2007-11-20 01:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jd S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋