we just had a baby and i also just found out he converted, i dont want my son raised this way
2007-11-20 01:07:43 · 28 answers · asked by jenn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I understand your frustration over your husband keeping you in the dark about his intentions but there are plenty of couples of different religions in the US raising children just fine-
You do have the option to agree to disagree, you know?
Your son will learn from both of your perspectives and make up his own mind as he gets older.
You might want to educate yourself a bit about Islam so you can understand where your husband is coming from.
A good book is No god but God by Reza Aslan which explains the origins and beliefs in Islam.
Peace
2007-11-20 01:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by :) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read the Torah and Quran before you allow those stigmas overcome your thoughts. Just because people do bad deeds in the name of the Quran doesn't make the religion bad, if that was the case the New Testament would be really bad. read some Christian.catholic history.
You will find that most books get a similar idea across just most people like to argue little dumb points. If you husband is reaching for more, he should include you and I hope he did it thinking of a foundation for the children. It would be better to he had discussed this with you. If he takes faith and you have none his faith maybe in error as marriage is of great concern under most faiths.
I hope you do take some interest. Soon or later we all take interest. Stigmas hold many back due to the only things you here is bad things and this applies to all religions. I have seen it with Christians, Judaism and Muslim.
2007-11-20 09:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by יונתן 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he didn't tell you he was converting and knew you weren't religious. I would say you are not wrong. As your husband, especially just having a child with you, he should have discussed it with you. Not that you could have/should have stopped him if he felt strongly about it, but you DO have a child TOGETHER to consider. He was wrong.
2007-11-20 09:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Astarte 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Your husband converted to a religion, you do not share. If you and he made vows in any church and then he converts to a religion you can't share, leave him, You should get separated before he can start brainwashing your child.
2007-11-20 09:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by magpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong for you to disagree, but now that you have a kid you have to decided how important you're marriage is and if you're husband is going to put his religion before your marriage. Talk to your husband and try to see his rational on converting and maybe try to get him to see your side too. See if maybe the two of you can reach a compromise.
2007-11-20 09:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Adsharmon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think your husband hid this "small" piece of information from you?
I would say he is a sneak (sorry) for such a decision which involves others is a family decision and not one for the typical male macho crap.
The point is he did hide it and I don't blame you for not wanting to have it (or any religion) pushed on you or your baby.
Be ready girl....he may have more secrets in store for you.
Good luck
2007-11-20 09:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by we_are_legion99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change with time. Sometimes couples change together and sometimes there paths split. right and wrong are only shades of grey. You both need to talk this out and determine your future paths. Comprimise on both sides must be made until a new future path can be determined.
I wish you both the best of luck
2007-11-20 09:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't convert to anything that I am not comfortable with. But you may find that if he is truly committed to this, you may be in for a struggle. Perhaps the two of you can find some middle ground upon which isn't so radical....If not, I'd be looking for a good divorce attorney.
2007-11-20 09:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by anna 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sort of is wrong. It is his choice. If he is not trying to force it on you then what's the harm? If he is forcing it on you that is different. You need to put your foot down. As for your baby, I believe that children should be raised with the parents beliefs but should not be forced to value those beliefs if they have issues with it. Ultimately, it should be each individuals decision.
2007-11-20 09:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Tina D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try practicing your own religion first before converting to another. If u did not understand my answer then you need some serious help jus like your retarded husband who changed to become a muslim.
2007-11-20 09:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Neil 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋