I'm 19 and I've only kissed one guy ever!Thats how pathetic I am!
I have a good personality and people tell me I'm pretty but I don't seem to get the guys!I do go out clubbing and have a great laugh.I have lots of brilliant guys friends at college but thats all they are just friends.They never seem interested in anything more.
I'm really feeling down about still being a virgin and I'm afraid that my inexperience will put guys off.I'm very afraid of the pain aswell and sometimes I think I'd be better off just doing it with some random guy then its done!I'm so frustrated and fed up!
2007-11-19 23:11:43 · 11 answers · asked by Mossy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mossy......
Buck up little camper... it will be all right.
YOur just being hard on yourself.... I was kind of like you, just the guy version. I found that some like the FLASH of others, you know sparkly people and they run here and there after all these things that sparkle... early sex, preg., lousy relationships, failed marriages... then there are those that arn't attracted too the outside FLASH and are concerned with what lays underneath, things like will my partner trust, listen, compassion, love, .... you know... those good things in people....
you are at that transition period, guys your age are jurks, older guys are jurks and somewhere out there is the guy that will make the earth move.... but alas... he is alot like you cause he is looking for someone that will listen, have compassion, love, have a nice set of grey matter and yea... a good kisser....
so don't give up, sometimes it takes awhile and in the next short while a guy will come flittering into your life ...
consider yourself blessed that you have made such good choices, now in college with no regrets or sexual disease etc... keep up the good work and he is out there looking for you too... just be gentle with him when you find him :) .
2007-11-19 23:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Pathetic? Are you nuts? You are 19, Do you realize how young that is? Do you know how many guys will find you attractive because you haven't done the entire football team?
Do not feel down about being a virgin. This is a gift, your gift and it belongs toyou. Someday, you may share it with someone you LOVE. don't be in a hurry to give it away. ONce it is gone, it is gone. INexperience is not a turn off.
Don't be frustrated. Be proud. don't get fed up. Secretly hug yourself for having something alot of girls would like to have back.
2007-11-19 23:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by dallas 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inexperience doesn't bother most guys; the ones it DOES bother, you don't want to be with anyway, trust me on that one.
It's not that big a deal, don't feel rushed. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Besides, bases 1-3 are just as fun, sometimes MORE fun than the "main event." Take your time when the opportunity arises, in other words.
Most of all, don't worry. When it's supposed to happen it'll happen.
2007-11-20 02:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well gal,i like you for the fact that at 19 you' still a virgin,keep it up girl!(i'm 20 and still a virgin also),but,don't you let those feeling rule you coz they will ruin your life.i wish you could stop clubing and concentrate more on your life,to me,it's something normal that even if people say you' pretty, no guys seem to be interested in you.don't worry about that,it's just a matter of time.maybe the guys aren't interested in you coz they know they don't deserve you.you will meet the who really is for you.cheer up gal !
2007-11-19 23:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Bibi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am almost 21 and i haven't kissed yet. i dont think your pathetic. for all you know i could be pathetic. by the way, i'm still a virgin. i used to think about how my friends get all the girls and i dont. Literally girls would flirt with them and talk about how hot they are in front of me. I used to feel really down and lonely. i even went to some dating websites and stuf but i finally stopped carring and realized that i want a long term relationship rather than a one night stand. and i would rather meet a girl at a nice setting like a bookstore, videostore rather going clubbing. Think superbad i met my ex-wife at this Bar, that's not cool, funny tho, anyways i would like to have a girl like me for me rather than how hot i am. so that's my opinion
2007-11-19 23:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by The Dude Abides..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not do that. You will be glad that you waited for the right guy. He has just not come along yet. You are the type girl that men consider for marriage, not just sex. That is why you do not get all of the attention right now. When these guys mature, they will be looking for a girl like you to settle down with.
When a guy looks at a girl, he either considers he for sex or a partner. At your age, they are still just looking for sex.
2007-11-19 23:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-12 04:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by tameka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just keep waiting for that guy. being a virgin at 19 is not wrong- it shows you're just waiting for the right guy. if all the guys you know dont see you that way, then try and go somewhere new- a job? - and get to know someone new. don tjust give your virginity to someone you dont like, you need to respect yourself more. the guy you want will come, you just gotta go out there and find him!! xxx
2007-11-19 23:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by eden.minx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not just be yourself? sleeping with some random guy is not going to make you feel better, or give you experiance. those things come with time in being with someone. try to be a little more out going and build confidence within yourself. your first time should be with someone special. remember your body is you temple. you'll be ok if you give yourself time to find the right person.
2007-11-19 23:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY DO YOU KEEP ASKING THE SAME QUESTION?????????????????? Aggghhhhhhh. Look, have you not found your answer yet?? I mean, this really is getting ridiculous. If you're genuine, you're working yourself up into a state and are probably not ready for having sex anyway. Please explain why you have to keep asking the same question over and over and over.....!!!
2007-11-20 00:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by aine_alainn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋