I will be going to my bf parents house on Thanksgiving Day. We get along great and I really love them. Here is the dilema...They are both very heavy smokers...we are not. My bf has asthma and I am very sensitive to cigarette smoke, so when we normally visit with them we only stay an hour or two because after that we simply cant take the smokey environment any longer. Asking them not to smoke is out of the question. It is their home and they should be able to do as they please there. We would hate to leave after such a short time especially on a holiday. Any ideas on what to do? Thanks
2007-11-19 22:41:07 · 9 answers · asked by Renee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you for all who have answered so far. Yes, my bf has had bad asthma all his life. His parents smoked the whole time he was growing up..and wondered why he was in and out of the hospital so much. Since neither of them have breathing issues they dont buy the idea that the smoking affects him at all. They are great people..just in their 70's they are old school and set in their ways. Thanks for the great suggestions so far (except the gas mask may be a bit extreme : ) ). I'll take any good ideas I can get.
2007-11-19 23:33:00 · update #1
Drink enough brandy and you won't notice the smoke anymore.
2007-11-19 22:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you couldn't ask them not to smoke due to your boyfriend's asthma. I have asthma too, though I haven't had a problem in a while, so I know what he goes through. It's possible they just don't know anything about asthmatics and just need to be educated a little bit. But to prevent this from happening again, why don't you host dinner next year? This way it'll be in your house and usually people who go to a non smoker's home, they won't smoke in the house. If you can't bring yourself to ask them not to smoke, then you need to consider whether or not you should eat there. You could do your own thing and then show up just for dessert. Your health comes before anything, including a family dinner.
2007-11-20 09:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going to have to leave especially if your bf's health is at risk. I am surprised that his own parents will not put off their smoking knowing that he has asthma. You would think they would be considerate and go outside. Oh well, you are right though, their home and asking them to conform is out of the question. Hopefully they will want you to stay and go outside and smoke if they just need to.
2007-11-20 06:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Indya M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his parents should be understanding if he has asthma , i would think it would be easy telling them before hand that you wont be able to stay long because he has been having some asthma problems ..that may give them the hint that they could go outside or at least cut way back on the smoking or go to the basement, garage or another room to smoke ...
2007-11-20 07:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever stay over, show them the disrespect. Pay for the cheap hotel, stay we're going back to the hotel cause we can't take the air in here, we'll be back later today.
2007-11-20 06:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is going to be cold on thanksgiving umm so tell his parents u can't deal with the smoke very well and ask them if they can stop smoking just for tonight.
2007-11-20 07:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Fate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up in time to eat and leave immediately afterwards. If need be, cough on your way out.
2007-11-20 07:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit outside part of the day.
2007-11-20 06:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear a filtered gas mask, or open the windows...
2007-11-20 06:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jovesash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋