I want to go home for Christmas..but I think my BF worries because when I said this before it means goodbye forever! But our relationship is strange he became like a mute after I told him I love him but I know he loves me too but he is a weirdo! lol! He is doing his compulsory military service here in Asia. I send him care packages and he is very appreciative but he doesn't know how to do because he has never hads a GF I am told. But he won't tell me what he thinks or if he minds if I go home because he acts like a mute~so what can I do just go?
2007-11-19 21:14:12 · 8 answers · asked by always4him 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know him personally not just IM friend and when I told him he came on IM that night but didn't answer me..
2007-11-19 21:15:00 · update #1
I want to go back to America for X-mas!
2007-11-19 21:21:07 · update #2
Hi,
Dont feel bad of him. And, dont feel guilty about yourself. You said he is doing military services in Asia, he is there when you need him but it is only that he does not committ or declare his love. Sweety, he may be worried about his future or safety. That could be one reason he is not showing the kind of committment you are expecting. I think he really really loves you. And he seems to be a very nice guy. He seems to be torn between his feelings for you and a need to satisfy your requirements. And when you said you are going home, he could be worried whether he would meet you again or when he would be able to talk to you again. I think you should not rush him. You can do a lot to help him and yourself. Ask him straight if he is shying away because of his worries. Tell him how much you love him and that you really respect for how he is. Tell him you are going home only for a while. Find a method to communicate with him and stick to a routine. Give him confidence and tell him how much you look forward to the time with him. Things will be fine. All the best.
2007-11-19 21:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you to do; just follow your heart.
Never tell a guy that you love him if he has never told you that he loves you. Always let him be the one to initiate that subject, then you open up. Guys are different. Girls express their feelings way too soon. They're on a different level than the guy and are impatient to reveal their feelings. Wait for him to catch up. Don't rob him of the "thrill of the chase."
To get him to relax and talk... if you could massage his shoulders/back (have him lie down maybe and close his eyes) and speak to him tenderly, in a soothing manner, saying something softly like... r-e-l-a-x... if you could be anywhere on earth, where would it be? (let him answer) Picture yourself there. Use your imagination to describe the place he named. (not rushing; no demands) Now, if you could have anything in the whole world, what would it be? If you take your time and really get into it, he'll open up and talk... and enjoy it.
2007-11-20 05:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell him the situation, that you're coming back and that you'll hope he understands.....and then go. He's not being very helpful by not talking to you about what he wants, so what can you do about it? Not much unless he had plans to spend xmas with you? Ask him to be sure, then if he didn't, I say go home.
2007-11-20 07:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Top Alpha Wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back home for the holidays. Don't sacrafic your own pleasure for his. If truely likes or loves you he would want you to be happy. If he doesn't then he is not worth having. Life is to short to waste time on a project.
2007-11-20 05:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jedday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has loads of things in his mind that he doesn't know where to start. Give him a topic and let him talk about it, he probably wants you to have that conversation that he never knew how to start.
2007-11-20 05:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Coin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go home for xmas. dont feel guilty about it! dont worry, its not goodbye forever, and if he doesnt reply for IM, its because hes so relieved you're there, or hes just shy. just go home for one day, and then leave the next. :)
merry early xmas! <:-p
2007-11-20 05:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by mcr_fanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just feels awkward expressing his feelings toward you. Just give him some time and eventually he will be able to open up more and tell you how he really feeels.
2007-11-20 05:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by i o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can not talk openly and honestly with each other, there is not much of a relationship there.
2007-11-20 05:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋