to give a backround, i was in a serious relationship over a year ago. i was torn apart when it ended, i gave my life and soul to this girl and all she did was destroy them. i then started trying to get on with my life, even though i was still in love with her, i was getting on well enough. i dated a few girls after but they were only there because i wanted fun, i had no feelings for them whatsoever. but let me tell you how hard it was to break up with them, they just didnt want to let me go. i had and still do have at least 5 ex lovers that would drop everything to have me back (not that im leading them on they were all aware of the fact that i didnt want a relationship, they just want it) i have however met somone who unbelievably made me happy, i was prepared to let things go naturally and if it turned into a relationship i would put my part in. NOW the Ex who hurt me has begged for forgivness and wants to try again, i still love her i just dont know wat 2 do, what are your thoughts?
2007-11-19 20:37:31 · 17 answers · asked by TEMtogether 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my experience, it never works with an ex. There is too much history.
2007-11-19 20:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Random thoughts is all I can offer, only you know enough to draw any conclusions.
1. You ex's timing is very suspect.
2. How cruelly or deliberately did your ex "destroy" your life and soul?
3. You've had more than 5 or so relationships that did not spark, and now one that does, so you are not simply on the rebound with the latest girl.
4. You still love your ex...analyze that a bit, what is it about her that you love?
I guess if I had to make a suggestion, it would be that you let your ex know you are somewhat involved by choice at the moment, and you really don't know where she fits quite yet. It would not speak well of her if she did not accept that for now.
Best of luck.
2007-11-19 20:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your ex wants you if and only if you have another serios option? Naturally, you will be guarded and cautios about wanting to be with her again, without other options. But as you know, keeping the "options" there is not healthy at all for a relationship. If you're ready to spend years trying to fix what didn't work out in the first place than go for your ex. If you'd rather start over then stick with a new girl. Hmm, how can I take my own advise?
2007-11-19 20:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy never backtrack! If she hurt you once then she will do it again! All of sudden she wants you back because you were the best thing that ever happen to her and she know it! She cant find the things you use to do for her in another man! I will still love her dearly but from a distance! Let her regret how she treated you, and let her feel the pain you felt!
2007-11-19 20:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by pepperspray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls what they dont have. Hey she left you probally for another guy..now that guy has nothing to do with her she wants you back. I say move on with your life and enjoy the new girl specially if she makes you happy You deserve it ok. Your ex had a chance and she chose something different so why caint you. You only live once. Besides she will probally just want to get you back and dump you again.
2007-11-19 20:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by JennyP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is Your ex just wanting You back because You are now happy? Me thinks so. Has she address the reason for the break up in the first place? And what of the new partner, she will be really sad! When it rains it pours, doesn't it!
2007-11-19 20:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u go to the new one u can not satisfy her then u will hurt her and ur self also as if again any time u come in contact with ur old GF then u cant give importance to the new one.
2007-11-20 00:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by aslam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to torn apart again go for her then, but since you said you have moved on then show that you have move on and concentrate on your new girl.
forget about your ex , there is a reason why you separated.
2007-11-19 20:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the girl your with, your ex hurt you so why go back and it never works going back again can tell you from experience
2007-11-19 20:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the reason that the two of you had to split. If it was something that can be resoved, then talk to her about it, and see if you can come to an agreement. If it was serious, then maybe you should continue to move on to this lady that makes you happy.
2007-11-19 20:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋