My dad is very overprotective over who I should go out with. He says I'm too young, but I'm already 18! My future stepmom says, "She's 18 years old. She can date whoever she wants, when she wants!" Is this normal?
2007-11-19 20:36:28 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thats about as normal as it gets *lol* Be glad he's not running around buying shotgun ammo.
I'm dreading the day my daughter is old enough to date - so the best you can do is deal with it in an adult manner. You could also try introducing the guy to your dad - if you have doubts about doing that then maybe your dad is right about being overprotective.
2007-11-19 20:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Animated Meanderings 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A father is often very protective of his daughter/s.
He probably thinks you're 'too young' because he's known you from birth and still sees you as a child. Your stepmum-to-be is right - you are your own person, and deep down your dad probably knows this - but he still cares for your well-being.
He just doesn't want you to forget about him probably. Maybe he fears that once you have a boyfriend/fiance that you won't need your old dad any more.
Be glad you still have a father, especially one that cares about your well-being. My dad died in an accident a few years ago.
I often wonder what my dad would think of my boyfriend, but I think he probably would have been overprotective and disapprove of my dating until I was at least/over 18 also.
2007-11-20 07:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sorgatani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often dads are a little more protective, because they themselves have been 18 year old boys and know what little pervs they are and what they want from cute girls. It just means that he cares about you! Try to talk to him and explain that you are responsibility and will choose guys to go out with wisely. Also, make sure you assure him that you have personal boundaries set and he might feel better. Good luck =) And do pick wisely, I'm not your dad, but there are a lot of jerks in the dating pool at 18.
2007-11-20 04:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by grace 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Dads like your father were usually not the most up front and honest when they were young. He knows what he was looking for at 18 and presumes that most 18 year old guys are after the same thing that he was at that age. He loves you enough to want to save you from that kind of pain, that he knows he inflicted on at least one or two girls himself.
2007-11-20 08:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell you since you are 18 and old enough to understand your dad is obviosly a man and he knows what men want and what they talk about..they also know that once a lady has a reputation of a slut it will always be around and in the back of everyones head .. ask your mom about a hoe from her days in school and then ask her is she was able the flip that reputaion ,, probably not..your dad does not want guys talking about you in bars and probably wants you to be a prize for any man.. you may have a great boyfriend who wont embarres you even if things go bad but your dad doesnt know that and wont risk finding out..you stepmom does care about you long term she wants you happy now.. your dad wants you happy until your150 years old.. why do i know.. im married 10 years to my high school sweetheart and for some reason i relate better to guys . you should hear what i hear and how i have to defend girls and say there just foolish girls who dont know better ,,nut sluts.. anyway my husband and his friends still consider girls from school trash or hoes and they havent even talked to them in years....(how unfair. and probably untrue)anyway to them a hoe is a hoe and a lady is a lady you treat each as what they are.. your dad knows this stuff....you still dont know who the world turns and how a good person today can be a cruel one tomorrow..
good luck!!! can you ever wish any wrong for your dad??? he can probably never wish you any bad either
2007-11-20 08:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by science major 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he's normal, if he wasn't overprotective something would be wrong. He was once a boy to, he knows how they think, he know what runs through their minds. My husband was the same with our daughter, but she didn't listen to him. Now she 18 1/2 and has a baby girl and no husband because the father is in jail. Long story. Please listen to your father.
2007-11-20 05:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Linn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad loves you. The way my husband explained it to me when I thought about buying a bikini for our 8 year old daughter was that basically men are pigs. He said that even thou he was a "normal" guy and not some sicko there is that chance there may be one out there. "You only gamble with what your willing to lose." I remember being where you are. Now I have a 14 year old son whose violent father will not let me see him in spite of a court ordered 50/50 joint custody. I now have to weigh my safety and that of my current husband and daughter with confronting him. Your dad is going to be a better judge of people just because of his experience. It may seem unfair and unwarranted but if this person is important to you then he will do what ever he can to change your dads opinion of him. Just know that your dad loves you and that he is doing his job. You are lucky in this day and age that he is involved in your life. It may just save your life oneday.
2007-11-20 04:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by ErikaKazan 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your dad loves you so much that he wants to protect you for as long as he can, it's a normal with dads. You must remember, dad was a young male not too many years ago, and he knows what animals and low- life's are "out there" They have not changed! believe me! Have a great day hon.
2007-11-20 04:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What fathers aren't saying is that they're worried about guys their daughters go out with. And that's because they used to be young once too and know what guys are capable of doing.
2007-11-20 07:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's completely normal. He is overprotective because he cares, because he knows men - since he is one himself - and because he doesn't want you to be hurt, used, or abused.
Congratulations. Be happy that he loves you so much.
2007-11-20 04:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by raindreamer 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋