i love my man so much but all his friends are girls and he has so many secrets it makes me feel like i dont trust him so how can i leave him even though i love him so much
2007-11-19 20:34:26 · 11 answers · asked by charlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Return his stuff. Retrieve yours. Stop calling him "my man" cause it hurts you. Call him a "dumpee" from now on. Set up a date and tell him that it's over. Deal with your sadness later.
2007-11-19 20:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You seem to have already decided to leave him, that much better, you have already prepared yourself for the hurt. Now, any relation should not be broken abruptly because both have invested in it. You should give it a fair chance of developing or breaking nicely. You should first convey your feelings to this man and tell him what you feel about all his friends and it is affecting you. Hear him out, see whether all that you think is actually true or whether some of them atleast are just your feelings. If you are the girl for him, he would make adjustments for you or atleast make you feel better or more confident. He will make the necessary changes or atleast makes sure there is no room to cause distrust between you and him. In such a case, all is well for you, you dont lose him. If not, you know perhaps this man is not the right one for you. You can move on. But part nicely. Dont let this degrade into a abuse march. Because of certain preferences each of you have, you decided to part, that is how much better than just breaking off.
All the best..
2007-11-19 20:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why like a guy who keep secrets from you.... one who makes you insecure and fearful... Do u seriously am so enticed by this man who loves basking in female company??
If he really loves you... he would have at least spare some thoughts for your feelings. Infact... he is self centered.
Being in love in this time and age is no longer a melodrama thingy or making unworthy, silly sacrifices...
How can you ever be HAPPY... ?? Think hard about this...
If you gotta be suspicious of him time and always...
If you wonder what lies he is coming up with next? Or should you even believe in what he said...??
What has he done that is soooo provoking that he deserves your undying love??
It's not healthy if one partner is always in doubts and fear.
How long can you subject yaself to this mental torture??
Are u that weak to walk away?? You have already voiced out your concerns and I am sure you are not blinded by ya love.
Now what u need is Courage to make a sensible right decision.
2007-11-19 20:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im trying to figure the same thing out. I know exactly how you feel. Its like we know we wont be happy cuz in the back of our minds he is hiding something or it just dont click. But you caint tear yourself away from his arms. And me and my guy got into fights and everything and got on the verge of splitting but i give in knowing i could make a better life without him. but at the same time knowing i may regret it later. Its really hard maybe one day it will come clear to what you need to do. We only live once remember.
2007-11-19 20:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by JennyP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off without making a big scene; it will just make things worse.
His secrets could cause you a lot of unhappiness. Even a huge chance of getting a STD. Sexual Transmitted Disease.
2007-11-19 20:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one day at a time.. Read a good book, go shopping at the mall, get ur hair, nails, and toes done.. when u look good, u will feel good.. and when u look good, someone else is always looking and interested.. so just chill at the mall, and try to find different places to hang out than u would normally hang out at.
2016-04-04 23:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be 50 ways to leave your lover
hop on the bus gus
make a new plan stan
etc
or out the front door
2007-11-19 20:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by bajaricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's secretive, theres a reason.
us women always know when it aint right... if u feel u cant trust him, its probably because u cant.
sorry hon. good luck. u can do better
2007-11-19 20:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by lucy6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no trust no relationship/
be positive think that you deserve or you can get a better guy than him.. i know its very difficult to forget a guy whom u love...
2007-11-19 20:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave him. tell him how you feel. have a heart to heart with him and see what happens first.
maybe everything isn't what is seems! :)
2007-11-19 20:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋