Is masturbation a sin if your husband refuses to have sex with you?

Question

My husband hasn't wanted to have sex for almost seven weeks now. We're only in our mid twenties and I happen to love being intimate with my husband. Well, he isn't interested at all and tells me to 'do it myself'. Is it a sin to 'do it myself' if my husband refuses and you can't stand it any longer? :/ Thanks

Answer 1

It's only a sin if you use a crucifix to do it.
:-)

Answer 2

When my mother was newly married, my grandmother, a strict late-Victorian German Catholic woman, offered some instructions. In marriage, she said, there is no sexual sin. Now the preachers and teachers can jump on that one all they want, but if you are a person who follows religious beliefs, then you have one answer - nope, masturbation is not wrong - particularly if your husband instructed you to do so.

All of this dodges the real points, which many others answering you have already made. But in this answer, perhaps you will get some help that is consistent with your own context.

Personally, I think almost all religions have made a hopeless mess of dealing with sexuality. (And Wiccans, there are things there too I think are off kilter, so don't even go there!)

Good luck.

PS - I do remember one woman who once told me there is no sex after marriage.

Answer 3

Yes you're wrong! If you feel the urge to use a belt, use it on yourself because you are guilty as sin. Masturbation is not a sin and is natural. Ask your husband how many times he masturbated throughout his lifetime and marriage.

Answer 4

No, it's not a "sin." That's just what religionists like to throw at you when you make them uncomfortable.
I'm sorry to hear about your problem. It's a shame a man in his 20s has lost interest so soon. At any rate, there is never, ever, anything wrong about masturbation. People have been doing it since they discovered they could. Don't worry about it.
I might advise marriage counseling. I also suggest your husband have a complete physical. It's unnatural for a man in his mid-twenties to have no sex drive. He might have a physical problem, but he might also be suffering from clinical depression, as well.
Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

It is not a sin. Sexual release is necessary for normal healthy functioning.

Being married is in no way an assurance that your partner will be in the mood when you are. So masturbation is a part of any normal, healthy marriage.

There are other benefits. When you masturbate you learn what you like, which can be communicated to a partner, furthering the intimacy that bonds two people together.

I would address the issue of why hubby is so dis-interested. Gently please, prying may make him go deeper.

Peace.

Answer 6

Wow, I think there are worse issues at hand than the lack of sex. Why doesn't he want to have sex? How's his health? Would he be willing to go to a doctor?

But no, I don't believe masturbation is a sin, so long as there's no lust for anyone other than your husband involved. Special circumstances and all that.

Answer 7

No masturbation is not wrong. I'd also consider marriage counseling if you feel you guys can't talk about it openly with each other.

Try *not* to guess what's wrong. So many people are saying he's probably cheating on you, that is wrong to say. It could be so many things, work pressure, stress, unresolved issues or hidden conflict between the two of you, a medical problem, etc etc. it could be something minor, just a distraction.

Talk to him gently about it, try asking in the relationships section...?

Good luck. And remember, relationships aren't all about sex!!!

x

Answer 8

No its not a sin but I would think asking us a question like this would be the least of your priorities. You need to sit down with your husband and find out what the problem is. Could be medical, depression, amongst many other things.

Get off the computer and talk to the man you love!

Answer 9

Masturbation is not a sin in any situation. Neither is pleasuring yourself.

I am a Christian myself, and boy there seems to be an awful lot of confusion on what is a sin and what isn't. So much of this crap is man made bullshit. Yes Christians can swear to and not go to hell!, amazing!!.

Basically, god wants us to live plentiful lives, this is what christianity is all about, freedom, not being a prisoner.

It is sad that so many man made rules have made many many
christians falsly lead miserable lives, because they think that so many things that are NORMAL and make them happy are a sin.

Answer 10

I think you need to talk to your Husband, and find out why he does not want to have Sex with you. He may have a medical problem, or be worried about something. Also, bring your problem before the Lord in prayer, as many other Christian will be doing for you.

Answer 11

First off your husband not having sex with you can cause sin between you guys for his body is not his own but now yours as well and vise versa. masterbation is a sin because honestly what gets you off?.....mainly the idea that goes though your head while you do it is a sin, if you think about other men sexually that is a sin. There has to be something deeper I'm sure you have talked to him but dont turn to masterbation because then you will get addicted to it and end up like one of those people who can only have an orgasam if they think what they were thinking if they masterbated its just not healthy for your marriage!