okay.. my father wants his family who lives in london to come and live with us in NZ forever. but i do not want that for many reasons, they have very bad habits like talking loud creating fights with ppl and moreover they hate me.
second and the main reason my cousin, their son has tried to touch me in places which are not suitable...i told my dad he said he will do something about it..all he did was growl at him..but is that enough when he says if anyone does that to me..he will u know what they say. and when my dad went to visit them my cousin sent me r-rated movies to watch...i was so angry and confused...because no family would do that...it was hard for me to tell my dad as he does not like anything against his family...i told my mum about this and then she told my dad the problem is that it has been around 2yrs since this happened and they think that i have been watching these films.. where as i have not.. otherwise y would i tell mum. how do i stop them 4rom coming ...
2007-11-19 19:11:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Awws im sorry baby<3
2007-11-19 19:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by I Tries So Hard 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to tell whether it's a boys will be boys type of thing or that your cousin is threatening you maliciously? Either way I hope you have your own room with secure locks on doors and windows and the only key in your possession before they arrive? If anything untoward happens, scream bloody murder, tell your mom and dad right away, and if they won't do something call the local constabulary and file a report. You're a girl, but you're also a person and you have to stand up for yourself because no one else will and no one has a right to touch or threaten you if you don't permit it.
2007-11-20 03:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is 3 ways, the gentle way the extreme way and my way . Ok first the gentle way. Try to persuade anyone close to your father in telling them about your problem and ask them to talk to your father. The extreme way is to threaten your father or whoever that if they do not agree you will do something extreme like leave home or what. Last but not least, my way which i always do to make my parents to grant me things. Silent protest is the best, do not say anything first just do something to irrtate them and when they ask you to do anything or what, pretend you never hear and walk away. I know its abit bad but try to show attidude to your father. Trust me it always work.
2007-11-20 03:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ryoma E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to me there are two way to solve the problem.
First one try to stay away from your cousin if they come. Before that tell your father all those things frankly,try to tell your problems,how ur cousin behalf with u & why u dont want them to stay with u? I think ur mom will take ur side then.
if they comes finally the second way is ,slap him in his face very rudely whenever he want to touch u...in the same time tell the insident to his parents & go to police.
2007-11-20 04:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by mrinmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no way you can stop them from coming but you can stay away from you cousin the best you can. Try and not be a lone with him and if you happen to be stay as far away from him as you can and don't let him get you in a corner.
2007-11-20 03:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by wculpepper8606 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to think deeply what you want. Your inner mind will help You. It has power to do and undo the things. Just think positively before going to sleep that every is happening according to your will and you will get the results but mind well thinking should be from the bottom of your heart. Just try!
2007-11-20 03:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Suresh M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a serious problem... How far is u'r mother interested in bringing them to u'r place?? I would like you to planely tell your father that you are not interested @ all.... I think that might be of little help.. But tey to put pressure on him with the support of your mother,,, I hope U'r mother will take u'r side..
All the best!!
I'm not sure how far I have helped you.. But try to be safe...
2007-11-20 03:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by MRR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents should listen to you that is bullshit. he has came on to you more then once so let your parents know that you are not feeling the same way and you are not going to put up with this. you demand that his parents know about this also so that every one knows what he did or is capable of doing again and that could start alot of drama. do they want that? those are your demands dont hold back it is your life and your body take charge since your parents do not see the importance of this family members actions. make him pay in someway sweetie we hear you.
2007-11-20 04:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by maree2007hamill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a keyed lock on your bedroom door and use it.
Take some self-defense lessons... karate.
Get a job after school and work towards getting out of there as soon as possible.
Talk to your school counselors about this.
2007-11-20 04:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is very serious. you must stay away from your cousin at all costs.if your parents are not helping you then you'll have to take the help of the police. i know it can be difficult to go against one's own family, but you"ll have to do it.
and one more thing don't hesitate to hit him.
2007-11-20 04:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Nitya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋