I want to propose to my gf, i told her sister to give me ideas and she said that she wants to be there to take pictures and she said that it would be best if her parents were there also. i was thinking about doing it where its just me and her but after her sister told me that im not sure. would it be better if her parents were there or not?
2007-11-19 19:11:46 · 15 answers · asked by martin g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
do whatever you are comfortable with, you are the one thats going to be asking her to marry you not her sister if you only want you and your future fiance to be there then thats how it should be then
2007-11-21 03:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really comes down to what you gf thinks. I would find out in a roundabout way....maybe say something like "Oh this guy at work proposed by doing X his girlfriend was sooo mad/happy he did it that way". Hopefully she will respond with her opinion.
Personally though the sister has a horrible idea!
1. The moment is between me and my fiancee. I certainly don't want my parents there to ruin the moment. Besides the fact that you don't want to pressure her into a "yes" because her whole family is watching she may want to do something.....intimate....to mark the occasion.
2. No pictures going off! Even girls I know who love having their pics taken don't want pictures of this. Take them after the proposal when you announce it if you want but during that she might laugh, cry, or anything else that makes a funky face and then have her looking bad plastered all over myspace and family albums?! I've heard of a few times where the couple "recreate' the moment for pictures if the girl decides she wants them....but don't spring a papparazi sister on her.
3. Half the fun is calling people afterwards and doing the "guess what...we're engaged!" bit. If you tell everybody and have them hiding before you can't do that.
2007-11-20 00:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the woman. MOST women would prefer it to be private. A proposal is a very emotional and personal thing. Having other people around can stifle the raw emotion for both people involved. You never know how you both will react. You might laugh, cry, sob or jump up and down but you don't want that intruded upon. You can share the engagement with the family right after but the actual proposal should be private. I think in the end she will agree.
2007-11-20 06:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, we're in the same boat, 'cept I already have.
When proposing, I suggest something personal. It all depends on your gf's parents. If they're the strict type of people who believe in protecting their daughter, the honourable and the best way of getting a positive response is by inviting her parents.
If they're not, and you have an idea about how they feel about you in a positive sense, I strongly suggest you keep it one-on-one personal and romantic. It also depends on the intimacy level of the relationship. If it's a very "physical" type of thing, keep the parents awayand bring the sister! :)
Hope this helps!
2007-11-19 19:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that a marriage is between two people that the proposal should be too. Granted you will be involved with your gf's family forever but this is a personal time that should be spent with just the two of you. Plus, it's very emotional (at least it was for me) and I couldn't have imagined anyone else around for that. It was much more special to me that it was just the two of us.
2007-11-20 03:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by stahija 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go somewhere like at a park, where lots of people are around. Your girlfriend's sister could be in the backround, not noticable, and she can also be taking pictures at the same time. Her parents should be there if they want, it's a sweet thing to do. As for them, they could be sitting on a bench facing the opposite direction. When you propose to your girlfriend, they could 'reveal' themselves, I guess. Sounds lame and cheesy, but it's what some people do, haha.
2007-11-19 19:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jessca Hershlag 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you'd like to capture the moment on film then the sister could be there. But the parents there too?? Just makes for a big crowd in what should be an intimate moment just for the two of you.
IMO, it should just be the two of you. Her sister obviously wants to share the moment but it's you and your future fiancee's moment and no one else should really be there.
2007-11-20 01:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Rob A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how romantic you want it to be. It would be nice-but more on there end than on hers. You wouldn't want her to be put on the spot or embarrassed, so she can cry and hug you and feel like the luckiest girl in the world, and only see you-rather than having to turn around and face a roomful of people. It's up to you, really. Ask her parent's if they wouldn't mind you making it personal. If so, then do it with everyone so you won't be off to a bad start.
2007-11-19 19:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Happy. Finally. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is how I feel. I would want everyone around me if she says, "Yes." But, have no one around if she says, "No." You know what I mean?
Earlier today, someone asked the question on how to tell him, "No," if he proposed. I only told you that to ask this: How confident are you that she'll say, "Yes?"
If you are very confident, then yes, invite the parents; invite the whole world to your joyous occasion!
2007-11-19 19:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my fiance proposed to me in the park, but he didn't have a ring at the time. we were alone.
last night he gave me my ring. we were in bed, and he said "what the hell is that?". he was moving his feet, so i thought he probably found a pillow or something. but then he was gesturing at his side, so i went to pick it up. the bow felt like sticky paper at first, like the kind on lint rollers, so that's what i thought it was. but then i felt that it was a box, and in the box was a ring.
i'm so excited!!!
so, i think you should propose somewhere beautiful, and have a ring with you if possible. if not, then spring it on her in a fun way, like my fiance sprang it on me.
2007-11-20 10:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents first and ask their blessing... kind of a nice formality that sets a nice tone.
After that, you can take her to a nice, romantic restaurant and buy her champagne, and propose there.
2007-11-19 20:00:54 · answer #11 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋