could i have ur advices?
what would u do?
2007-11-19 18:00:55 · 8 answers · asked by hydaya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm the black sheep of my family and after 43 years of their continual abuse and neglect I have walked away from them all and cut all ties. It wasn't easy but I don't need their crap anymore.
The last straw for me was that I have just had nine nights in hospital and my parents (who are very active and healthy) didn't even phone or visit to see how I am doing. Same with my sister and brother. That was the straw that broke the camels back after years and years of similar situations.
If you are comfortable with who you are then don't change for them. They won't respect you anyway. Be yourself and be proud and if gets too difficult around them, then send them packing and get on with your life.
2007-11-19 18:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the blacksheep of my family. I don't mind, it doesn't mean I'm any lower than the rest of us. I'm the same, just different. Just smile and be happy, don't think about it as being a bad thing. I'm the blacksheep and I can sing, draw, play guitar really well, write songs, make incredible films, I'm a great boxer and I'm a wiz with computers. My sister is a good mom and my brother was a great wrestler in high school. Now they don't do much but raise their families. I'm still enjoying all my talents.
I'm not saying I think I'm better than them. My point is that the black sheep is different for a reason. You will find the reason when you discover your hidden talents. Trust me, they are there and don't expect them to support you. You're on your own in some of this but it gives you more time to practice.
2007-11-20 02:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by BIG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the blacksheep of my family.
I don't really have any advice because I don't really do anything about it. When I was younger, I used to feel completely neglected and different from them...and that it wouldn't matter one way or another if I was there or not. Now that I'm older, it doesn't phase me very much. They still treat me differently than they treat each other, and they expect different things from me, but as an adult, I just don't worry about what they say or think anymore. I'm not sure how old you are, but if it really bothers you, try talking to someone about it...if not a family member, then maybe a school councellor or something. I assure you, you'll feel better about things once you're older. But in the meantime, talk to someone about it, talking helps. Take care.
2007-11-20 02:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for the up side.
Think outside the box.
The black sheep has a lot more freedom because nobody expects anything out of them.
You do the best you can to be the best person you can be... get through school as best you can and get a job... then evaporate shortly after graduation.
When you finally show up at family get-togethers it will be a cause for celebration.
2007-11-20 02:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey one in every family im in mine an thats fine cos mean im individual an do my own thin instead of bein an doin what everyone else wants an i cope alone an made me astronger person copin an dealin by myself.it can be hard but once ya used to it comes natural an you find everyone else comes an runs to you for help an advice
2007-11-20 05:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by sallyaboulter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol my bro is the blacksheep i call him fedex cuz i say that the fedex man dropped him off. LOL
2007-11-20 02:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by theguyversh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
work hard, save as much money as possible, then get out of the house as soon as possible.
2007-11-20 02:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Daisuke 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will escape soon from this hell hole dont allow it to get under my skin and still have fun in life!
2007-11-20 02:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Janey 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋