I am planning on losing my virginity (i am 14) to whom i really love. it feels right. but idk if i am too young. and i really want to. because i love him. we both talked about if i got pregnant and he had an std test (i dont need one because i am a virgin). but did you regret it when you lost your virginity? and do you think i am rushing into it? i have been with him since 7th grade and i am in 9th grade right now.
2007-11-19 17:28:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, you're way too young, sweetie. You should realize if you're online asking total strangers for advise on such a crucial life-changing decision, you're too young and you aren't ready to make this decision by yourself. You're risking disease and pregnancy. Are you prepared to have a baby before you can legally drive a car? Please wait. Wait until you're older. Sex isn't love. Sex is just sex. And the first time, to be perfectly honest, really isn't all that great. It hurts and you're both so nervous and so uncoordinated that it's sloppy and not at all romantic or exciting. Please wait until you're older.
2007-11-19 17:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kat1286 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you are rushing into it. To fully enjoy this God given experience, in my opinion, you can not have any doubts or fear about it. You want this to be with someone special, and this special person deserves your 100% assurance that you really want to do this. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. Go enjoy other things at your age. Then you wont have ANY worry of a disease or pregnancy. Plus, you seem to be a very reasonable gal. Look how smart you are to sit here and actually question this. Not many women do that, they don't think, they just act. YOU WILL REGRET IT. You know you will not feel any better about him or yourself after you have sex. Most women at your age lose their virginity, do not become a statistic. Become something great, be your self.
2007-11-20 01:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by kg6wyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happily still a virgin and I love it. This is because I can share something show special with the man I spend the rest of my life with. Do you plan to spend forever with this guy? If not I would wait. You still have a long life to live. I do give you credit for waiting 2 years. Some people can't wait that long. I hope the guy is not pressuring you to do something you do not want too. Write a pro con list to help you decided.
2007-11-20 01:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by jchrist81285 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, you are still too young to make an important decision like that. Why not give it another 6 months or so before you reconsider it? I would think that you should at least wait until you are 16, because you will me more mature, and more prepared to make a decision like that. The experience will be better for you too, if your bf is willing to wait. Then you will know that he truly loves you.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure that you use protection. You are definitely way too young to get pregnant. You would be ruining your life.
2007-11-20 01:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself wouldn't. What is there to look forward to when your older if it is all done now? But I'm not in your position, so I'll let you be the judge. I'm curious, though, how old is your boyfriend? Again, this is a descision you have to make on your own, it's a very personal descision. I have a friend who is haveing a baby this week, and she is in 9th grade. When I think of how different her life will be, I'm so sad for her. Honestly, this will not make you love any stronger, and your unsureness definitly means your not ready. I would wait, really.
2007-11-20 01:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldn't do it because so many people in the USA get pregnant young. But if you think hes then right one then maybe you are ready. Just make sure he has a condom. If you really love him and he really loves you then one day you might get married and have a great life. But i cant decide for you its your life and your decisions. So hopefully you find out what you should do. I hoped this helped you
2007-11-20 01:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by David P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, yes i think you're rushing it,. you have the whole rest of your life to do that. and if he really loves then he'll be around when you're older. how old was he when he lost it? i'm assuming it would be not too long ago, which means he would've been with you still... that doesn't seem right. 14 is very young, and you will regret it. please wait! you won't regret that!
2007-11-20 01:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by sweeter than apple pie♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's remarkable that you two have gone steady for so long. But I would think that 14 is too young. Can't you hold off until your 18 or so, or maybe - if you two really are soul mates - until you at least graduate high school?
Think about it. Once gone, it is not retrievable.
Wotan
2007-11-20 01:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Alberich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kinda hard to explain but if I were you I wouldnt rush into things. Just knowing that you guys love each other is good enough. You dont want to move into sex to fast cause it might cause issues later on with your guys relationship. So its really up to you! Just take your time with things!
2007-11-20 01:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by daddyroxxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is a big step in the relationship.especially if youre only 14.just slow down and have fun.take your time.get to know eachother better.if i were you id wait.at least a couple more years.if your boyfriend really loves you he'll wait too.
2007-11-20 01:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋